Meet my Stalker

Burnside Active member

79POSTS

15 years ago

So it seems really daft on reflection, but I accidentally gave my number to a little gimp thinking I would use him as a business contact (as we started talking about him providing a service to the company I work for- to me this is networking)and we had some coffee and a chat.聽

Now he calls me almost everyday (for the past 3 weeks)聽 I only ever answered the calls when I thought he was normal, but I have entirely ignored the last 20 or so calls.聽

Then he spotted me one day and approached me declaring (very loudly in a nice, civilised cafe) that he had been calling and calling and I never answer.聽 Wanting to cool down the situation (which could have been very humiliating) I said "Oh well I think my phone is broken" and sort of brushed him off until he went and sat far away.聽 I exited聽 swiftly and didn't talk to him again. But he didn't get the hint, he kept calling. Thing is- I never, ever answer the phone.

In this culture what's the best thing to do?

What would be a sure fire way of getting rid of this little creep?

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Who Active member

97POSTS

15 years ago

Culture? That opens up a spanking new ~~Pandora's box~~ Pyramid! This aspect gets complicated and not too pretty.

There is stuff like intellectual blindness vs. plain arrogance vs. complicated dumbness vs. sense of shame etc. to consider.

To do? Brilliant choices will flow below this post (I hope! and am sure).

Meanwhile, you may want to consider if it will help to tell the gimp in simple plain words.

Well, for starters, ask your phone service provider to block his phone number.

Move hindsight - into foresight! and then see what happens.

Y30 Guest

0POSTS

15 years ago

Be very straight forward & honest

Just tell him that you find his calls inconvenient to the level of harassment, thats the sure way that he'll understand the msg.

There will be no room for misinterpretation & its a sure way to get rid of the (GIMP) whatever that means.

komidi Member

3POSTS

15 years ago

just throw it in his face.."don't ever call me again or I'll call the police and charge you with harassment !" Believe me that will definitely work. you have to sound serious and make sure he totally understands what you mean

leprechaun1188 Contributor

105POSTS

15 years ago

I know it may be a cop out, but have an Egyptian male talk to him on the phone, and explain that it is not appropriate for him to continue calling you. This is what I do with any repeat caller (honestly sometimes i wonder if they just sit there dialing random numbers waiting for a foreigner to pick up...)

That should work

Problem is, what we would consider to be normal behaviour, friendly, and networking, is often considered very differently here.

pandabear Active member

30POSTS

15 years ago

He's obviously into you. I agree with leprechaun1188. Have a Egyptian man talk to him he'll get the hint and back off.

Giuseppe Active member

36POSTS

15 years ago

Well, the sexual frustration of the Egyptian men, matched with the huge availability of viagra in any pharmacy (2 tablets=4 pounds), bring these men to think that they can do with the foreigner ladies what they cannot do with the Egyptian women.
The police is the best solution, in case you are inside shops, supermarket and offices, just call the manager and the "gentleman" will be fired immediately.
Good luck and of course don't give your private number to anyone.
G.

IrishAlexandrian Contributor

126POSTS

15 years ago

Burnside,

I get crank callers too!! It's fine when you don't know them because you can ignore them and get away with it.
I suggest that you follow Leprechaun's advice.
It will work

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

Giuseppe wrote:
Well, the sexual frustration of the Egyptian men, matched with the huge availability of viagra in any pharmacy (2 tablets=4 pounds), bring these men to think that they can do with the foreigner ladies what they cannot do with the Egyptian women.
The police is the best solution, in case you are inside shops, supermarket and offices, just call the manager and the "gentleman" will be fired immediately.
Good luck and of course don't give your private number to anyone.
G.

聽 How do you know the price of viagra? Have you used it? Do these Mediterranean men need something like this? They are known as being enough " strong", compare with Northern people, but who knows? Maybe they re exasperated they ll not manage !
Concerning the phone call, my advice, ANSWER THE CALL, just pressing the key, and let the phone away from you. He will spend his credit with no use! After some time, realizing you don t listen to him, he will give up!
Don t call any policemen, they ll laugh cause this is their mentality!
Let this to be a lesson for you and never to give people that you don t know enough, your phone number!

Burnside Active member

79POSTS

15 years ago

#10

Thanks for the advice!
I am going to block the number, give the phone to a male friend if he then uses a different number, answer the call and leave it off the hook and if pushed, will be 100% frank!
After that, I cannot be held accountable for my actions!

backtothesuture Active member

79POSTS

15 years ago

#11

either be frank to him or do what valibilic said, getting a third party involved is of no use , it will get things more complicated...ladies from europe and america are well known of being honest, frank and straight forward, i find that is the best solution, tell him u r too busy to talk and not interested in a relationship, furthermore if he was insiting , say it in his face... the idea of ansering the phone speechless is a good idea as well....end of the story lol

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

#12

If you get a third party, it means you give him attention, and this is what in fact he wants!
Not answering will allow him any free time he has, to use disturbing you! He feels like having a party, like attending at a show!
It is a " type of answering"! Just press " green key" and don t keep the phone, don t listen! In some days all will be ok!
Numbers couldn t be blocked! I tried using " Etisalat" to block somebody, it lasted a lot till " customer service" understood what I wanted, then they explain it s not possible!

Giuseppe Active member

36POSTS

15 years ago

#13

valibilic wrote:
Giuseppe wrote:
Well, the sexual frustration of the Egyptian men, matched with the huge availability of viagra in any pharmacy (2 tablets=4 pounds), bring these men to think that they can do with the foreigner ladies what they cannot do with the Egyptian women.
The police is the best solution, in case you are inside shops, supermarket and offices, just call the manager and the "gentleman" will be fired immediately.
Good luck and of course don't give your private number to anyone.
G.

聽 How do you know the price of viagra? Have you used it? Do these Mediterranean men need something like this? They are known as being enough " strong", compare with Northern people, but who knows? Maybe they re exasperated they ll not manage !
Concerning the phone call, my advice, ANSWER THE CALL, just pressing the key, and let the phone away from you. He will spend his credit with no use! After some time, realizing you don t listen to him, he will give up!
Don t call any policemen, they ll laugh cause this is their mentality!
Let this to be a lesson for you and never to give people that you don t know enough, your phone number!

One of my guys is a kind of distributor, he has the pockets full for all the colleagues in need of ....

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

#14

OOOHHHHH!!!聽聽For colleagues? Why do they need Viagra at job?
It means that selling Viagra is a good business! I will keep in my mind!

Giuseppe Active member

36POSTS

15 years ago

#15

valibilic wrote:
OOOHHHHH!!!聽聽For colleagues? Why do they need Viagra at job?
It means that selling Viagra is a good business! I will keep in my mind!

Right, why they need viagra if they don't work at all, so they cannot be tired???

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

#16

Sometimes you are tired and bored, at job I mean, just doing nothing!
I have an experience like this , some months in a job where all people drank a lot of very sweat tea, and pretended they work!
Also, I have understood that your colleagues took Viagra , not for job side, ohhhh聽 God guards it, just for being ready for their next activity : going home, or some of them homes, having many many wives, so really they need " support" in this case!

alimirza Serial expat

266POSTS

15 years ago

#17

LOL ...that is pretty lame !!

Giuseppe wrote:
Well, the sexual frustration of the Egyptian men, matched with the huge availability of viagra in any pharmacy (2 tablets=4 pounds), bring these men to think that they can do with the foreigner ladies what they cannot do with the Egyptian women.
The police is the best solution, in case you are inside shops, supermarket and offices, just call the manager and the "gentleman" will be fired immediately.
Good luck and of course don't give your private number to anyone.
G.

Egyptianme Active member

28POSTS

15 years ago

#18

I will tell you

you should call something called mabahes el telephonat....and they will make sure he will never call again...its kinda mien i know but its a good solution

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

#19

Egyptianme wrote:
I will tell you you should call something called mabahes el telephonat....and they will make sure he will never call again...its kinda mien i know but its a good solution

I have understood nothing!
Who should call? What s the benefit?

Y30 Guest

0POSTS

15 years ago

#20

First it depends on his age and his position (you said you met him as a service supplier for you company) these stuff determine what will scare him the most.

try to guess what could it be and let me know and i will tell you what to do..

I have tried this several times with my mom and it works but it just needs some patience and tactics

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

#21

Much noise for nothing!

Y30 Guest

0POSTS

15 years ago

#22

valibilic wrote:
Much noise for nothing!

valibilic ViP

522POSTS

15 years ago

#23

You proposed a very complicated solution: with staff there that could scare him, and all depend on his age and position, as if he could have another type of brain if he is older or younger...
Most be done a serious research ! And for what?
Too much work for the brain!
The solution: IGNORANCE!

Y30 Guest

0POSTS

15 years ago

#24

I understand but not all the people have the power to have there phone ringing all day long and they ignoring it...you might want to receive calls from other people..

that was my mom's case, she couldn't use the phone for weeks..

Who Active member

97POSTS

15 years ago

#25

Burnside -

It will be nice to know what worked for you.

Perhaps, we all may learn how to shut down stalkers .. or how to avoid being shut down ..

Burnside Active member

79POSTS

15 years ago

#26

I got a new sim card.聽 It was pretty easy and I am now stalker free.
I don't answer the phone unless I know who is calling (oops, did I forget to put my employer's number in the address book)
It's a little convoluted but jobs a good un.

TurkeyForever Active member

63POSTS

15 years ago

#27

Burnside wrote:
I got a new sim card.聽 It was pretty easy and I am now stalker free.
I don't answer the phone unless I know who is calling (oops, did I forget to put my employer's number in the address book)
It's a little convoluted but jobs a good un.

Strange that nobody told you just to change the number that is the easiest way to get rid of calls you don't want lol. Other solution is you can block phone numbers on most of the newer phones and this is not related to the Mobile provider at all.

Happy you get rid of your stalker.