Dating. Im conflicted.

ItsWhatever · 2022-04-28T13:33:44+02:00

Hey everyone.I have been seeing a Moroccan man.I’m smitten. The conversations between him and I are very repetitive and are starting to be red flags to me. I’m so sad. Basically: -we are the same age -met in personHe says that he hates Moroccan girls because they are greedy. They want their husbands and boyfriends to buy them flowers and gifts, take them out on dates, receive mehr😂 or provide for them. He doesn’t like to take me on dates now (as soon as I agreed to be exclusive)and is saying these opinions to me now that I am emotionally invested in him. he’s talking about a $500 Mehr and says I’m delusion if I expect a dollar more 😂 He said I love you within a week of us seeing eachother- he wants to move to my country because he hates Morocco - control/jealousy -doesn’t keep his word - serious marriage talks- all of these things started coming up once I reciprocated feelings. Seriously like a week after I said I love you too. I didn’t think he could use me for visa and such bcs - I’m WAY out of his league in looks, education ect - we’re the same age, faith and similar cultural background (I’ll say my parents are Moroccan adjacent 😂)We don’t clash on religion, culture or anything. I thought he has to be genuine.Now I’m not sure.

ItsWhatever New member

Member since 28 April 2022

ItsWhateverNew member28 April 2022 11:33:44

Hey everyone.

I have been seeing a Moroccan man.

I鈥檓 smitten.

The conversations between him and I are very repetitive and are starting to be red flags to me. I鈥檓 so sad.

Basically:

-we are the same age

-met in person

He says that he hates Moroccan girls because they are greedy. They want their husbands and boyfriends to buy them flowers and gifts, take them out on dates, receive mehr馃槀 or provide for them.

He doesn鈥檛 like to take me on dates now (as soon as I agreed to be exclusive)

and is saying these opinions to me now that I am emotionally invested in him.

he鈥檚 talking about a $500 Mehr and says I鈥檓 delusion if I expect a dollar more 馃槀

He said I love you within a week of us seeing eachother

- he wants to move to my country because he hates Morocco

- control/jealousy

-doesn鈥檛 keep his word

- serious marriage talks

- all of these things started coming up once I reciprocated feelings. Seriously like a week after I said I love you too.

I didn鈥檛 think he could use me for visa and such bcs

- I鈥檓 WAY out of his league in looks, education ect

- we鈥檙e the same age, faith and similar cultural background (I鈥檒l say my parents are Moroccan adjacent 馃槀)

We don鈥檛 clash on religion, culture or anything.

I thought he has to be genuine.

Now I鈥檓 not sure.

BusinessBoy New member

Member since 05 February 2022

BusinessBoyNew member28 April 2022 11:58:16

@ItsWhatever

seriously you found all these red flags and still asking, I'm speechless, the least of the least for a man is to keep his words that's like some man universal rules, since he's muslim he should also know that his religions asks him to provide for his family, also Islam gives you the right to ask for whatever you want in Mahr and it should be given to you not your father as many people do unfortunately, if what you ask is too expensive for him he should leave because that money is reserved for you to use freely in case of emergency or divorce, yet he goes against his religion's teachings, this boy is clearly not responsible nor acts as a ''man'',

anyway at the end of the day you're still free to decide if you want to spend your life with him, good luck,

oh btw if he hates this paradise we don't need him here either, we're happy聽

Vakil Morocco Expert

Member since 10 May 2021

VakilMorocco Expert28 April 2022 12:06:19

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@ItsWhatever hi. Unfortunately from what your saying it sounds like his intention are wrong and everything you are saying sounds like he might be using you to just leave the country.

Yes it looks like red flags. Just act with caution and wishing you all the best.

ItsWhatever New member

Member since 28 April 2022

ItsWhateverNew member28 April 2022 13:28:30

@BusinessBoy

Yes, sadly I鈥檓 in love at this point.

He鈥檚 not a good muslim, I know. He does a lot of haram things on the low and says he鈥檚 trying to change and get better.

I鈥檓 so sad. I鈥檓 gonna take some space from him now. We see each other multiple times a聽 week right now.

Thanks for the reality check.

ItsWhatever New member

Member since 28 April 2022

ItsWhateverNew member28 April 2022 13:29:34

@Vakil

Yes, I think so now.

Thanks for your input.

ItsWhatever New member

Member since 28 April 2022

ItsWhateverNew member28 April 2022 13:43:46

I should say this guy has some good points too.

We were friends first

I made the first move

He does split the bill

He borrowed money before and paid it all back fast

I鈥檓 not investing huge amounts of money into this guy

We have good physical chemistry, emotional chemistry.

I cant ignore the red flags anymore though.

I just canceled our plans to meet tomorrow 馃樀鈥嶐煉�

brssth New member

Member since 03 April 2022

brssthNew member28 April 2022 14:33:47

There is many of good man here in Morocco. Try to choose one yourself instead that someone choose you. If he is expecting from you a visa this is not bad at itself in condition that this man should be real man willing to work and provide for his wife financially and emotionally. Someone who is really respecting his religion. Who will not respect his religion will not respect you or maintain his promises and duties toward you.

Have best of luck

I wish from Allah to open your heart to Islam