Hello.
I am Magdalena from Canada.
This is my first time posting on the Expat forum.
I am from Ontario Canada, I have been in the process of moving to DR for the last two years.
I am basically in desperate need of some advice as to buying a property in the DR.
Lately, I have been getting the feeling that I might have made a huge mistake.
Of course, I met a Dominican man over there the first time I went there in 2017. Not looking for a relationship, rather running away from one here in Canada.
To make the long story short, I found myself in a relationship with this man. 8 years younger than me. totally not my type, but after many trips there, and being friends for a while,I started to like this man and trust him.
I made the decision to move to DR permanently, not because of this man at all, he was not even in the picture yet.
Last year, in August 2020, being stuck here in Canada because of COVID, We decided to buy a small piece of property together and build a small business (Colmado) with a rental space above the store and behind it small living outdoor space for us with a pool.
Deal was, I would finance this project, and he would over see it from there.
I was not there for the buying part of this property, he was. I only saw the contract with both our names on it and that is it.
The property is not finished yet, but it is good move in condition almost. The upstairs, not the back where we are supposed to live. That has not been started yet, The store still needs a good few more thousand dollars to be ready to open, etc.
Recently I have been asking my boyfriend (Flaco), to calculate how much do we still have to pay for the property so that it is paid for in full. We only put a deposit on it. at least , that's what he told me and that is what was on the paper work that looks like a contract.
I am not trusting this man at all lately, there have been a few red flags, and my gut feeling is telling me something is off.
He is in a big hurry to start moving to the apartment that is above the store. But, it is not completely ready just yet, there are some few touches and odds and ends that need to be done.Â
I'm am trying to stall him from moving, and without my financial input, he is basically stuck in the apartment that we have been renting. He is totally dependant on me to be able to move. And if I decide that I am not putting any more money into this project, He will be no better off than he was before he met me. He will just own a small piece of land, that might not be totally paid off and a store that he will not be able to afford to open. Basically, he will just live there, not bringing in any income.
I could use some advise on how to proceed with this situation I got my self into.
On paper both our names are the contract. But for all I know, it could not even be real.
Only thing that I have to go on is that we have been building on this land and he has been putting his heart and soul into overseeing it.
Can anyone offer me some advice/direction on how to proceed? Should I fly the ASAP?
Should I demand to see proof of us both owning this land?
Should I pretend that nothing is up so he does not figure out that I am suspicious?
I am getting the impression lately that he just does not want to give me the answer to my question that I have been asking for the last while. Since, the apartment is almost ready to move into, next thing I need to know is exactly how much we still owe on the land. I want to fly there soon with money to pay it all off, but I need to know how much $ in need to have exactly.
So, I am starting to wonder about everything. And, in case, he has been dishonest with me from the start of this project, how do I go about protecting my self while I still might have a chance. I do know for sure though is that in order for him to be able to benefit from this project, he still needs my financial resources. Otherwise, he will not benefit much from it, not without me.
I apologize for the lengthy post.
Thanks,
Magdalena