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L'Acteur wrote:

Respect and love goes hand in hand to form a long-lasting relationship. Sad to say, many couples fail to live by this important rule. Love is present yet one or both of them do not consider respect as a vital factor in keeping a relationship. This often leads to quarrels and will slowly deteriorate a once strong relationship. Consider them as examples that love alone is not enough. Build a relationship strengthened by respect to make the years ahead as a couple worthwhile.

Very True .....

merger spirit wrote:

Do you think love is more important than respect in the relationship

Love makes the world go around.
Respect, trust and attraction are how love begins...yes ?

DWSA wrote:

Respect, trust and attraction are how love begins...yes ?

Not quite, attraction brings two people together.

Respect and trust are what cause love to grow. Do you honestly think you could love somebody you neither respect or trust, or that doesn't respect and trust you?

wjwoodward wrote:

DWSA wrote:

Respect, trust and attraction are how love begins...yes ?

Not quite, attraction brings two people together.

Respect and trust are what cause love to grow. Do you honestly think you could love somebody you neither respect or trust, or that doesn't respect and trust you?

Attraction will disappear as soon as respect and trust are no longer exist, hence love will come to an end

aryavrat wrote:

..........聽 how one can love someone and he/she will not respect him/her...

Regards,
anil

Hi Anil,
Yes, it's possible but is not the real thing.聽

John C. wrote:

aryavrat wrote:

..........聽 how one can love someone and he/she will not respect him/her...

Regards,
anil

Hi Anil,
Yes, it's possible but is not the real thing.聽

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nelda wrote:

how you will continue to love someone if you can feel that he has no respect with you anymore....like what's happening to me right now, we are already 3 years but now I can feel that he has no respect anymore with our relationship....do you think I will still continue this kind of situation?

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Hello Nelda,聽
Love changes into many things as the couple ages.
On top of that, not everybody is mentally balanced to keep love as exciting as the first moment when the person met his other half.

Also, one may respect a person a lot, but have no feeling toward that person.聽 I, for instance, respected and respect many women I come in contact with, but I had and have no erotic reaction toward any of them.聽 How to tell a woman: I do not like your face, I dislike your body, there is nothing attractive about you, your legs are ugly, but you know what? I love you.
Perhaps I should have forced myself to make an exception in the past, but nothing pushed me to do it.

Love is not only respect, it's also pity, forgiveness and a desire to help (mostly the unhelpable ones).
Do you know that there are people who get married to somebody who is in prison?
How can you respect somebody who committed serious crimes including murder?聽 It's only love out of pity or God knows what morbid attraction keeps such couple glued to each other.
Do you, as an attractive young lady, marry serial killer Charles Manson?

If you were to produce a model of what love looks like, what would it be?
Perhaps love is a Big Bang explosion which occurred when we met what聽 looks like the right person, sending fragments of rocks, asteroids and planets of memories, work, hopes, joy, cries, forgiveness, tolerance, patience, kids, grandchildren, successes and failures into our聽 personal space and private time.

People all over the world should not worry why they are not loved as much as they have been when they first met.聽 They should worry why they cannot love more ...聽
Restlessness is the enemy of love.

nelda wrote:

how you will continue to love someone if you can feel that he has no respect with you anymore....like what's happening to me right now, we are already 3 years but now I can feel that he has no respect anymore with our relationship....do you think I will still continue this kind of situation?

Hi Nelda,

Love doesn't see anything wether he/she is getting respect from the other one or not...when you love , you surrender yourself without expecting anything from others...once the other also notice your love ,he will also surrender himself and then respect will come automatically....but if you think if someone will respect me than only i will love then this cannot be called...its like putting condition for love whereas love is unconditional thing which only happens , no one can make it...

Regards,
Anil

aryavrat wrote:

nelda wrote:

how you will continue to love someone if you can feel that he has no respect with you anymore....like what's happening to me right now, we are already 3 years but now I can feel that he has no respect anymore with our relationship....do you think I will still continue this kind of situation?

Hi Nelda,

Love doesn't see anything wether he/she is getting respect from the other one or not...when you love , you surrender yourself without expecting anything from others...once the other also notice your love ,he will also surrender himself and then respect will come automatically....but if you think if someone will respect me than only i will love then this cannot be called...its like putting condition for love whereas love is unconditional thing which only happens , no one can make it...

Regards,
Anil

How about when love mutates into rationality?

Suppose you, a man, meet a lady you like and she signals that it's OK to talk.

You tell her: I offer ABC and ask for DEF.聽 Is it OK with you?
If she says 'No', then the relationship is nipped in the bud right away.聽 No need to waste time, to lie, to listen to nonsense, to improvise, etc., etc.

If she says 'Yes", then you ask her what she offers and what she expects in return.
If you cannot accept, you say "Thank you, no. Good bye!" and walk away without starting false pretensions, threats, cries, violence, playing waiting games, etc., etc.
If you accept, then a new love story begins, always respecting the rules established in the beginning and never changing them during the game (marriage).

Does it not sound better and more just than what's happening with the "love" relationships of many Earthians?
Is it not nicer to start with a deal and grow love as time goes by instead of start with great "love" and end pitifully in the Court House divorcing splitting assets, cash and .... of, my, I almost forgot, children?

Is it not nicer for respect to be applied to a mutually accepted deal in the beginning than to somebody's status, like, let's say, the woman who marries a guy just because he is a basketball star?

Few people build on a deal agreed to in the beginning, most people destroy the initial love which attracted them at the start.聽 Proof of destruction is the question in the title of this thread ..... Amen.

KathyCH wrote:

it cant be it shud be equal love and respect is the same thing if the person doesn't respect you its means he doesn't love you either.

Aaaahhh, how I wish love and respect came as powders I could mix in different quantities every week again and again ...聽
But they mostly come as dust carried away by the wind ....聽

KathyCH wrote:

hahahah make sense but if love is available like that we wont appreciate it ,

Maybe.
But for sure we could mix it the way we need.
And there is an even bigger issue: do we love and respect someone equally or do we just ask for them from someone?聽 聽