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Macae wrote:

I am so proud to have a very intelligent and beautiful seventeen year-old daughter.聽 SHe is a present from GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MY rule is that she can NOT date until she is twenty-five (25) years old.

25??

She is an adult and you have no legal standing to say what she does at that age.

You start controlling her like that, it will only it will come back and haunt you.

ARB360 wrote:

One bitter lesson that I learned (as a male parenting figure), many years ago, was that even in the best of father-daughter relationships, any attempt to dogmatically control

I won't be doing that, but I will be buying a shotgun.
I know what I'm like so I know what other lecherous buggers will be after.

kristiann wrote:

In my country normally the man is the person who pays the bill. Call it old fashioned, call it machism ...if you like even call it rasism but that's the way it happens.

However, there was a very interesting situation from my teenage years, when I was dating one special girl. Following the pattern I was always paying the bills and not letting her do it. BUT on our 4-5 th date when I was just about to pay and she asked to do it, I refused again. Then she said:
"Lisen, if you don't let me pay this bill, then you don't call me anymore!"
From that moment on we never argued about bills any more. If one was paid by me, the other was paid by her. Case closed.

So whatever perceptions are, whoever calims he is the BOSS, this does neither excuse nor relieve the other party from being independent, equal and responsible.

Amen to that, sir!

Macae wrote:

travellight; NOTED:聽 鈥淚 encountered that situation not long ago and I did not call him a stalker until it was pretty obvious he was. He was nice enough , we had coffee, and chatted. There were already some warning bells. He didn't like my choice of coffee places. Yet we met again at his choice of coffee place, and the effort to control me began. I didn't, he said shop at the right stores, he was visibly angry that I became a permanent resident, because he had just started the process after being a temp for 4 years.

I told him I would be unavailable for awhile, He found out where I was living ( wasn't hard my coffee shop is in my neighborhood, so he knew聽 what street I lived on) and he showed up at my house, he called numerous times. I refused to open the door, and told him that I just wasn't what he was looking for, after he emailed that he had arranged that we have dinner at 8 pm with some snowbirds he had met. It was at a restaurant I never heard of.聽 That's stalking.鈥�

Your suffering is NOT unique.聽 聽I SUGGEST that PLEASE, the next time, IMMEDIATELY call the cops, file a report, ask for restraining order.聽 I do NOT want my daughter to ever have to endure this repeated type of abuse!!!!!聽 Give the police his full name, phone number, email, description, etc.聽 THOUSANDS OF WOMEN have been suckered in and raped or murdered when it could have been prevented.聽 IT does NOT matter that at onetime , you聽 had fun together, etc.聽 聽You can NOT judge a book by its cover.聽 Things change or you find out the real person is a jerk or worse.聽 聽IMMEDIATELY put his email on the spam list!!!!!聽 聽Block his phone number.聽 Put up a security cameras.聽 Give a picture to your neighbors and tell your friends and family.聽 Put it in writing!!!!!聽 Prevention is much better than being stalked, raped or murdered.聽 If he ever knocks on your door call 911 and have your phone call recorded and have the cops to come and remove him.聽 Do NOT speak to him!!!聽 Let the cops talk to him, NOT you!!
聽 Your life is in danger!!!!!

Best wishes,
John

Put it in writing!!!!! - Indeed, via my (Officer of the Court) lawyer's filed restraining ordesr, and separately served @ the respective "work-place" locations of both that juvenile boy stalker's parents. Thus, apprising those parents of their son's actions; keeping them well-rooted in the "loop" of parental responsibility; hence making them (the parents) jointly culpable for their son's future actions.

Make the boy, and his parents more (keep their respectful distance) "paranoid" about us, instead.

And, also, I'd advise my daughter to politely smile (while courageously maintaining "direct" eye contact), whenever she's in the public presence of that same boy, and especially so, whenever he's together with his peerage. His peer-group pressure, alone, will bring a happy conclusion to that particular episode, for sure.

We been there, done that, and have the T-shirts to prove it,