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Loneliness when you're abroad

HaileyinHongKong ViP

4723POSTS

13 years ago

#401

What about loneliness when you're a dude?

Zuluvuvuzela New member

7POSTS

13 years ago

#402

thats even worse when u are a dude @ HaileyinHongKong u tend to wonder what u wanna do but u cant do nothing especially if u are in a country where little can be done than just watch and be carefyul abt everything.

I wished u were a dude to understand what am talking abt.lo hahahahaha

goodvillager New member

9POSTS

13 years ago

#403

I find loneliness more of a factor when my attitude is bad. Which one comes first? That can be difficult to figure out.

China is an easy place to feel lonely. You are surrounded by people, yet often completely alienated. The best way of combatting loneliness (after you've improved your attitude towards where you are, that is), is to get involved with the local people and culture. Develop some hobbies - sometimes having a common interest (i.e., cycling or photography) can transcend language problems.

If you can't get past a negative attitude, I'd say get out. Don't stay where you don't believe you are welcome. When you're an expat, you are usually there by choice. And you can choose to leave

This is my third time in China, and it is going much better this time - I changed my attitude.

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hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#404

I remember inviting an expat for a cup of coffee so we could share experience but i was turned down politely.
Most of the times locals talk in their native language to each other when i'm around creating a barrier between them and me.
Moral of the story:
NOT every expat will want to hang out with you and
most of the times don't bother approaching locals your are not welcome. Let expats and locals approach YOU.

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hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#405

I am usually a loner but I love being around people & looking for friends but usually visited town centre and library surfing internet but again loan i miss family & friends back home.

hutkgjf Guest

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13 years ago

#406

It's so lonely when you don't even know
yourself

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hutkgjf Guest

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13 years ago

#407

Wow... how many lonely people here.. Sometime ago I was working in UK for 2 years. Never felt lonely, not a second.

husseink Active member

58POSTS

13 years ago

#408

sometimes bored , isnt enough to describ ur day !!

especially in SA , sometime聽 the weather sucks, and by default no places to go ( except food, and food & food..)
to kill bordness, i go to gym for swiming, sleep or read books ; try to go with friends ( but they have their families so they dont go often for BBQ or ... )
You also have pc games

its hard to make friends in SA , especially when the whole country conisder you as "EXPAT" , and not just simple expat, like if u are from europe or USA\CA >> you are a GOOD expat, but when u are ARAb\ASIAN expat , u are low life for them ( in their mind)

and what is worst , is that even your own KIND ( nationailty) , when they are here, they become UNFRIENDLY towards each others .

if it was easy to get friends in here , i think it would ease life little bit.However i am only here til next year ; fuck money ;聽 i need to enjoy my 20-ish years before i get 30

HaileyinHongKong ViP

4723POSTS

13 years ago

#409

The problem with public pools around here, too many people use them as toilets!

husseink Active member

58POSTS

13 years ago

#410

HaileyinHongKong wrote:
The problem with public pools around here, too many people use them as toilets!

i heared in china they have this red alarm ( where water turn red when someone piss in it )

:S goodluck with that
one good thing in saudi , is u can rent for a day , a pool with nice area + volleyball field for less than 200$
share it with friends &enjoy

shalini19 New member

9POSTS

13 years ago

#411

Hi Guys
Lonliness is a thing which catches up with you when you are away from your friends ,your family .Im in Riga away from home and my frirmds I just chatt with my friends or watch some commedy series online to keep it busy or study

shalini19 New member

9POSTS

13 years ago

#412

Very true it sucks

shalini19 New member

9POSTS

13 years ago

#413

Thanks for the advice.They dont understan d how it feels when you are suurounded by people who dont speak your language and they dobt even care as if you dont exist for them

TheoSingh Member

11POSTS

13 years ago

#414

somethings dont change with time

wvictor Contributor

116POSTS

13 years ago

#415

Hi guys
I love to be alone as much as possible. i hate noisy, parties, crowded, congested cultures..

Only a hard feeling is, when I聮m in home sick. (miss my family lot, at that time call them or chat with them聟)

Thanks for reading

missdiaz2 Member

1POSTS

13 years ago

#416

I Skype my friends & family. I read,聽 I like to keep my mind busy.Window Shopping,Retail Therapy, have a nice walk, visit free exhibitions, musuems, displays as I am not in Full Time employment.
Speak french to someone I meet.I write letters also.I am glad i am healthy.

RoniFPVGT Member

17POSTS

13 years ago

#417

every 1 feel lonely some time. best what i do i watch movies or search on internat

wvictor Contributor

116POSTS

13 years ago

#418

missdiaz2 wrote:
I Skype my friends & family. I read,聽 I like to keep my mind busy.Window Shopping,Retail Therapy, have a nice walk, visit free exhibitions, musuems, displays as I am not in Full Time employment.
Speak french to someone I meet.I write letters also.I am glad i am healthy.

Hi
Nice to meet you here, and wish you be happy at all time...
Cheers..!

JL12 New member

7POSTS

13 years ago

#419

Reading is good for me. You're never alone with a book.

I also recommend "work-out". The exercise keep me fresh and energized.

Hopefully, this will help.

princess sandra Serial expat

270POSTS

13 years ago

#420

of course sometime i felt lonely also, and nothing i can do than surfing on net or reading magazine and listening to musics, in the end i am dozzing off...

HaileyinHongKong ViP

4723POSTS

13 years ago

#421

The best way to meet people is to go out and do the things you like to do.

hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#422

HaileyinHongKong wrote:
The best way to meet people is to go out and do the things you like to do.

I've tried that but i realize i was doing it alone.

hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#423

happy Christmas to all here
bad thing to be lonely

micheltunis Member

11POSTS

13 years ago

#424

I feel very lonely now ... Christmas is coming and it becomes painful ....

hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#425

ya its really some thing touching

We go abroad for our futures/business and we sacrifice our homes/families
me working in SKA some some time
Miss my family a lot

victoria85 Member

18POSTS

13 years ago

#426

no need to be lonely guys....

the big fat man is coming to town!!! just trying to cheer you up.. its Christmas and there is always a reason to celebrate

lets go and party!

Primadonna Jordan Expert

5339POSTS

13 years ago

#427

victoria85 wrote:
no need to be lonely guys....

the big fat man is coming to town!!! just trying to cheer you up.. its Christmas and there is always a reason to celebrate

lets go and party!

Just because of Christmas people get lonely, when you are abroad you miss your family more then ever.
It feels not the same when they are not around or if you are not able to do your traditional things.

hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#428

ya it happens some times
Better to keep yourself busy at that time
Either remembering love ones or
go out for meeting some friends
or go for sports/swimming etc

yamaya123 Member

11POSTS

13 years ago

#429

I feel lonely when i stay home in the weekend day time.
In that time, i often go caffe to read a book.
in fact i like to be alone...

HaileyinHongKong ViP

4723POSTS

13 years ago

#430

Merry Christmas! all you lonely people.

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amm95amit New member

6POSTS

13 years ago

#431

i am planning to set up a steel unit out of india. i assume then even i will face lonely times. the best way out at the moment seems to tire myself at work so that i don't get time . i hope i am able to do it!!!

hELLnoi ViP

1274POSTS

13 years ago

#432

amm95amit wrote:
i am planning to set up a steel unit out of india. i assume then even i will face lonely times. the best way out at the moment seems to tire myself at work so that i don't get time . i hope i am able to do it!!!

You have a big project in your hands. You will be too busy to feel lonely.
The internet has reduced or shortened the distance from here to anywhere. You also find pockets of Indian community anywhere in many countries.

hutkgjf Guest

0POSTS

13 years ago

#433

Correct me if i'm wrong : But when you move abroad聽 your friends and family contact you less and less gradually to the point that you realize that few people care about you. Only your parents continue to contact you after years. Most Family members and friends back home stop contacting you.

MyraCh Member

13POSTS

13 years ago

#434

I don't think that they totally stop (I had some friends who had moved to another country long before I did and we never lost contact) but I agree that it is a great chance to realize who really cares.

hELLnoi ViP

1274POSTS

13 years ago

#435

Hericles wrote:
Correct me if i'm wrong : But when you move abroad聽 your friends and family contact you less and less gradually to the point that you realize that few people care about you. Only your parents continue to contact you after years. Most Family members and friends back home stop contacting you.

1. YOU moved abroad. To your friends, YOU moved away.
2. Even if you didn't move, you can't be sure their care for you will be the same forever. We have new encounters daily.
3. Parents and siblings are connected by blood. Even then, if you don't make the effort, they will leave you be.
4. You will make new friends and have new interests which will take up your time. Are you doing enough to keep in touch with the people you LEFT behind?
5. If your family and friends are so paramount to you, perhaps you should RETURN to your roots. Why did you LEAVE them in the FIRST place?

MyraCh Member

13POSTS

13 years ago

#436

Wow, wait, we didn't abandon anyone. Being in another place doesnt mean that you stop caring. And it can even help and strengthen relationships. The better you feel about yourself and about your life, the more (energy, love, whatever)you are able to give to your loved ones.

I'm just a phonecall away from my friends and family and if they need me i'll be on the first flight to Greece. And there is no law that forbids them to come visit me here. They are always welcome and it would make me more than happy.

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emilie116 Contributor

168POSTS

13 years ago

#437

Loneliness is a complicated thing...

Here in Brazil, people are very friendly in general, like, very very friendly...yet I still feel lonely because their communication is not as straight-forward and they are easily offended if someone speaks their mind, even if it is done with a lot of delicacy and respect.

That leaves me still feeling lonely as I feel like I gotta keep everything inside.

Having someone who really understands they way you think and what you mean when you talk, without having to explain the intention all the time, helps in not feeling lonely. I will try to make some Quebecers friends here.

Good luck to all, and happy new year 2013!!

Emilie