Advice on the offer I've received being a scam of some kind...
I am a 38 year old former United States Marine. I have no children, have been married once and had a few long-term relationships but none based on truth on the masculine side of the partnership. Now, I am hardly perfect, but I am fiercely loyal and want nothing more than to take care of a man who is also loyal and wants to treat me like a woman and not a trophy or toy. I am kind and affectionate and do my best to keep compassion and faith in humanity alive.
My question/situation... I met a 30 year old man that lives in Sharm in an online community game. Within a week of us speaking he has confessed his undying love and wishes for me to go to him. He wants us to marry immediately and live in Sharm where he will take care of me and erase all the years of abuse I've suffered from my mind. He has told me these things among others along the same lines that make me think maybe I will finally get my happy ever after. He says he has told his family and friends about me and has offered to pay for the flight to get us together faster when I told him it would take me a couple of months to save to pay for the ticket. I have read, and will continue to read, as much about Egyptian culture and the Islamic faith as I can to prepare for the possible move. Everything so far has only made my excitement grow (It sounds as though I should have always lived in Egypt!) That is, until I read the personal story of another expat member. I realize this isn't a free relationship advice site, I plan on using any and all of the services that pertain to my situation. This is really an amazing place and I am glad to have found it! That being said, does anyone see anything with the basic description I have given that looks suspicious? Is this normal behavior for an Egyptian man? Is this too good to be true? He's very attractive, looks to be in good health .. he initially did mention something about returning to the US but my comment of it not necessarily being such a wonderful place was met with the reply that we would live in Sharm and that he is sure I will love it. (my apologies to any that the following offends it is just my opinion, but American men for the most part, in my experience, know nothing of how to be a man and how to treat a woman) I purchased a membership to duo lingo and will begin learning Arabic tomorrow, though he does speak English well, I would prefer to make things as easy as possible on all involved in our possible union.聽 I'm so excited at the prospect but also so fearful that this is just a dream after all. Any advice or insight would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you for taking the time to read my, most likely, highly ridiculously question (s).
Have a fabulous day!
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One thing I should add for perspective. I think he created the current account he has in the game where we met just to speak to me with a his actual "face". The details he already knows about me point to him being the owner of a couple of accounts I've interacted with. However, those accounts were not "him". It sounds funny but it would make sense if you knew the game and his role in it. The first account would have been a man that I spoke with and ending up "dating" as you can only do in an online setting. We hit it off and two months after speaking everyday for hours I told him I was going to buy a ticket to spend a month with him. Very quickly his entire personality changed. Then he ignored me for 2 weeks, was very cold and short with me... We didn't speak much after. If more details are wanted please just ask, I hate to spam the forum. I apologize if I already have!! 馃槄
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There are great men here; however, you must understand many people here will view you as a way out of Egypt. As you may or may not know salary in Egypt is very low while everything else continues to rise. Many want to leave Egypt as soon as possible and will do so by any means. So please be cautious. Do not make any commitments until you come here, visit, and maybe spend time with him and his family for a while. Get to know them and get to know him a little better as well. But please be cautious.
I do want you to be safe and cautious of course y3ny I pray for all of this to work out greatly for you my dear.
My honest opinion: he is a liar. I am an Egyptian woman living abroad. Something similar happened to me and in the end I am being blackmailed.
But to give him a chance鈥� go to Sharm but don鈥檛 stay with him at the same place. Don鈥檛 allow him to touch you. Don鈥檛 offer money and tell him that you don鈥檛 have money!!!! Or maybe mention this quite clearly before traveling.
Good luck and I really wish you that he is honest
Take care!
Thank you!
Thank you for the advice and quick reply. I appreciate your time and definitely your wisdom. I didn't think about the things that will happen once I arrive showing me more that I can use to help in my decision.
You are an angel, thank you again.
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Either way, I will proceed with the highly level of caution. Thank you all for your input!
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zeyadahakim wrote:Dont give any commitments until you go meet him face to face and spend time with him. No one here can tell you if he is honest or not from what has been written above. Unless you get to know the person, everything nice can be said on internet.
I totally agree.聽 Even if you meet him face to face you have to know his family and ask about his reputation at work and all these things.聽 You also need to test him in a lot of situations before you take your decision.聽 Take your time and don't rush
Actually, I wouldn't do that
@Princess Sara
run , Yalla ! Feel free to message me ! I lived this first hand 鈥︹��.. it will NOT turn out well . I am so sad reading this because I lived it . These men say they are Muslim they pray and are good men ,
wrong ! It鈥檚 haram to use a woman ! I lived this & it destroyed me !please exit now ! Message me with any help you need ! Please exit now ! I鈥檓 so sad and destroyed : illl never be the same ;( my heart is broken
Egyptian men are not liars, nor making scams. In any nationality, there are honest men and men who cheat. Egypt with all its men and women is a wonderful place to be in. People are generous, friendly and kind-hearted. They would go out of their way for others. Egyptians have tender humane compassionate empathy towards one another which tend to be scarce in the west and in other places in the world.
@Princess Sara
i am currently having a relationship with an egyptian man and he cheated on me twice and still i forgave him because i do love him, i got a chance to meet his friends and we usually go out of his friends everyweek and聽 they do trust me alot of course but they didnt know i do聽 observe all what they do and of course they do open up everything on me , they are really looking for western girls because they dont want to go back in egypt because its poor and they want to live in Europe or America therefore probably my man is also doing this to me and yes i found that he is just using me anyways i can feel it on the first week that were dating and he was so defensive on it. I left him and not only because of that he is liar and cheater too
@Leila999
same here he always telling me that .
@wateronfire
hello wateronfire
can I know the game you find your man please ?
i also have met an Egypt man 
I met an Egyptian man when I was visiting. We went out a few times. We do continue to text and FaceTime maybe once a week.
We like each other. We are not expressing our undying love. We are talking about getting to know each other better.
I will not be giving him any money. I am going back for 4 weeks this summer because I fell in love with Egypt. I plan on moving there in 4 years. We may invest as business partners in the future. Take it slow鈥 wish you the best. We wish all to fall in true love. Doesn鈥檛 matter nationalities. I have 0 intention of bringing an Egyptian man back to the states. I鈥檓 tired of the rat race.
I did tell him he could come and visit someday in the future. He鈥檒l need to save his money. Lol
yes, I would give him a personal invite. That would be a long time from now.
Hello Freedom Finally 2026,
Welcome to expat.com!
Thank you for sharing your experience with us.
It's nice that you are setting things straight in the beginning itself. It might save you from any unpleasant surprises in the future.
All the best,
Yoginee
大咖福利影院 team
I recently experienced something similar. I met a limousine driver in Sharm. Very handsome Egyptian man. We exchanged phone numbers and spoke daily. He said he was married but could marry a second wife. I was blind with love for a while so I didn't really care that he got married. But I didn't like it at all!
He became increasingly distant. He could only speak to me at work as his wife and daughter would be with him in Sharm. As long as I spoke to him she was in an apartment with him there (Egyptian woman) I have also seen her facebook and she is indeed Egyptian.
He could never speak freely. because his wife would always check on him. We were on video calls, but he was always in the taxi at work. Never at home. He soon opened up about the fact that his wife would be jealous. And he wanted to cut off contact earlier, but changed his mind. Had nice conversations with him for another month until he went to visit his family in Tanta. He started ignoring me completely and stopped calling me.
During our last video call, he asked if I wanted to buy an iPhone for his friend in the Netherlands. He would send me money for it himself. Because in the Netherlands an iPhone would be cheaper than in Egypt. Then the alarm bells started ringing. This is their tactic. First they say to send you money, hoping that you will buy them an iphone with your own money. So I didn't. A week later he became curt and started ignoring me.
We would meet next March and rent an apartment. He promised and kept saying "inshallah". We talked for 2 months and he seemed to really enjoy meeting up. But in hindsight, he hadn't planned it at all.
After much insistence, he replied on whatsapp. He said he lost his job in sharm el sheikh and went to work in Cairo to be close to his family. So this is not true. He still works in Sharm. He chose his family and didn't want to hurt them. He asked me not to message him anymore.
This was perfectly clear to me a man playing games. I am very happy to be rid of him and have not shed a single tear.
@wateronfire
Hi, I was in Luxor last fall and the driver of the boat to cross over to the Westbank, Told me I was to be his queen and how he wants to marry me. Kinda funny as he is 40 and I鈥檓 61. He said age is nothing to him and he just wants to make me happy. He went as far as taking me on dates and introduced me to his family. He put 8 months into this 鈥渞elationship 鈥�. Always needing money, &15-$30,000 American money as he needs to pay all his debt, like getting his son out of the hospital, no food for his 4 young boys. Apparently he is a widow. My own fault I did want to believe him and did send home a total of $1,300.00 but that鈥檚 ok, it could have been worse. I constantly told him I had no money and was down on my own luck. He finally gave up hope and told me he must move on as I have no money for him. He works at the hotel Stienberg hotel and his name is Arafa Abd Elrasol Elady Ahmed from Luxor. Be safe out there! Love will find you near your own home and will be a real man.聽 聽Sorry I repeated myself,聽 I thought this first email was deleted.
@wateronfire
Hi. I would like to share my story with you.聽 My youngest son and myself went to Egypt last fall, first Cairo then Luxor.聽 My son is 36 and I鈥檓 61, every where we went every one thought we were married. In Luxor we stayed at a very nice hotel Stienberge聽 ( my spelling is wrong). The boat driver from this Hotel Arafa Ahmed took us over to the Westbank several times, he also thought my son and I were married.聽 Once he found out we were mother and son, he jumped with joy and said I am his Queen and he will make me his wife.聽 Very smooth talker, my son said he sounds like a Hallmark card.聽 聽He took me on dates and had me meet his family.聽 He has 4 young boys and claimed to be a widow, when I went into his home (my son was with us)聽 his son asked him who I was and he replied that he is in love with me and I will be his wife. I begged me to stay with him when it was time for me to return to Canada.聽 I thought that would be the last of him, well when we landed back in Cairo he was already calling me (he set me up with 鈥淲hat鈥檚 App鈥�.聽 He was very romantic and knew all the right words, all the time.聽 He was very handsome and I of course was smitten with my new found love.聽 He put 8 months into trying to get my money, but deep in my gut I knew this was to good to be true.聽 He wanted me to move there, but we needed $15-$30.000 to pay his people back in order for us to have a life together.聽 Well, as much as I wanted to believe his lies, but I knew better.聽 After the 8 months he finally gave up and told me he needed to move on as I have no money to give him.聽 I鈥檓 so glad I never gave him my money.聽 Please listen to your gut instinct and be safe!
@wandaadams1961 WOW! 2nd story I've read about this guy doing the same scam on a foreign woman! He should be arrested!!!
@wateronfire Please be very careful! Follow your gut!!! If anything sends you a red flag, stop this relationship immediately!!! I don't know anything about whatever that game is your talking about and the way he reacted to you on it.聽 Don't send him any money for anything.聽 Most of Egyptian men just want to find foreign women for Visa to leave Egypt. What kind of work does he do in Sharm El Sheikh?
Hello everyone,
Thank you for your input.
Please note that the OP is no longer a member of the forum.
Cheers,
Cheryl
大咖福利影院 team
@Princess Sara Don't walk ... Run ... -@Misterbig_Ireland
Are there any circumstances where you would think a relationship between a foreign girl & an Egyptian man is a genuine one? I'm an Irish girl I have lots of experience with Egyptian people (who are some of the kindest people in the world) but I'm constantly seeing these posts about marraige fraud & romance fraud situations! Is it ever the case that a foreigner & Egyptian man just meet & have an honest relationship?
@e4ejd
Unfortunately, you just need to err on side of caution. Do not get yourself legally entwined , just take everything really slowly. I will return to Red Sea in January, I think they know women like us are intelligent & therefore, not targets.
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