大咖福利影院

Sovannsok wrote:

Hello,
Please outline a bit more of you expect to meet any single person in Cambodia.

Priscilla is a moderator of 大咖福利影院, she is not looking to meet single people.
She is looking for answers from expats in Cambodia about this subject.

It's a questionnaire.

Have a nice day.

Joe
Cambodia expert
大咖福利影院 team

twinsguy20 wrote:

First forget the stereotype that men are satisfying their 鈥� Asian fetish鈥檚 鈥� ha I鈥檓 satisfying my good women who treat you well and you do the same for her, not a western women who usually does nothing for you !聽 then complain , yes their are wonderful western women , no question, but the loyalty and care a Asian women will give you is unsurpassed, and聽 of course there are western men who exploit this , i for one do not and don鈥檛 appreciate those who stereotype me, but your correct, I can tell you must not have been here long as your confused by them wanting to immediately marry , yes it鈥檚 the same for women they also want to marry quickly, you must understand the culture and not put your western thoughts about dating and trying to project it on the Asian way of doing things, in this culture long dating to get to know each other is not done, it鈥檚 considered a waste of time, you come to know your spouse after marriage, and as far as the drinking goes it鈥檚 universal, if you ask any women in Asia China included 鈥� why you don鈥檛 want to marry a Asian man the answer is always the same 鈥� they drink they smoke they gamble鈥� I鈥檓 not perfect but I don鈥檛 do any of those things, I don鈥檛 believe that a western person who projects their western tradition of dating on another country should be dating until you understand the culture of a country , marriage is more than just romantic lust, like western culture, because we in the West date only on that, and if women in the West think otherwise they are fooling themselves, do you really think that we want to have good conversation and a strong independent women thing ?, which is fine , but western me are dating you first and for most, because they are attracted to you don鈥檛 fool yourself into thinking that鈥檚 it鈥檚 anything else, because we are all men driven by this not because of your stimulating conversation! Ha , I appreciate my Asian women more than a Asian man who expects to be treated so well, I tell her everyday, I also don鈥檛 need to have a women who I have to express every 鈥� feeling鈥� that comes into my head, she doesn鈥檛 speak very good English , I don鈥檛 speak her language very well, but we communicate very well, because of this I tell, my friends who ask the same thing when they ask what we talk about ? I tell them all the same thing, 鈥� I鈥檓 not sure what we talk about, but what we DONT talk about is feelings 鈥� if you want in long conversations , and communication is your number one goal I would suggest you find a western man, if you want a wonderful partner who will treat you better than ant western women or man they are to be found here , but don鈥檛 try to put your western聽 expectations of dating on them as they have a culture 1000s of years old and they are more advanced than we are , study the culture and you will see it鈥檚 beautiful, with specific roles, as opposed to the blurred roles and blending of roles that is taking place in most western cultures, I find it to be refreshing! Yes some men take advantage of this but the relationship won鈥檛 last , try to understand the culture before dating your going to appreciate it and be happier in the long run, and yes plenty of my good Khmer men friends don鈥檛 drink smoke or gamble and would love to find you ? Only my observation in my 5 years here , good honest men and women here as well as not honest , it鈥檚 like everywhere,聽 聽And do dismiss your idea that Asian women are 鈥� slaves 鈥� just look at any Khmer couples, the women is always in charge always!

Just quoting this so I can look at each point rather than going back and losing what I typed.

Nobody likes being stereotyped in positive or negative ways. At least most people don't. If you stereotype them in a positive way, those who don't fit the mold feel extreme pressure to fit it. For example, the stereotype that all Asians are smart is not helpful to those who are average, especially when they already face pressure from within their society to be xyz. The same could be applied to the stereotype that all Asian women are "loyal and caring", and that's not to mention that actions are interpreted differently from person to person. What you perceive as caring might not be what I perceive as caring or your partner perceives as caring(hypothetically). Some people feel loved when they receive financial support or gifts. Others feel loved when someone spends time with them and gets to know them on a personal level. For me, if someone gives me things but doesn't want to talk with me or spend time with me, it feels like they are just fulfilling a social obligation rather than caring about me as a person. Other people feel loved when someone compliments them or does things for them, and sometimes there are cultural influences that affect this. But it doesn't mean that someone is less caring if they don't communicate love in the way you tend to feel loved.

I've also been in Asia for 5 years, but that doesn't mean I have to agree with everything about the culture. There is a lot to love about Asian culture. The food is great, China used to have fireworks all the time, people are up front about what they want when it comes to relationships(no games), they're polite, etc. But immediate commitment isn't a positive aspect in the sense that there is a much greater risk factor than there is if you get to know someone before making a lifelong commitment. If you've only known someone for an hour, you have no idea about their character. You don't know if they're a psychopath or a sociopath. That's a bit extreme, but you also don't know if they're an alcoholic, a pathological liar, or an abusive person. A lot of people put their "best foot forward" to win you over, and then the real character comes out later. I'm not saying you should dump person after person to look for Mr. Right, and I'm not saying you should never take the plunge. You should, however, wait til you know it's going to be safe and healthy enough for you to work through whatever challenges life brings you. I've seen a lot of unhappy relationships in Asia because people didn't know the person before they got married, they felt extreme pressure to stay in the relationship, and saving face somewhat hinders them from admitting when they need help with the relationship. There's way too much potential to end up in an abusive relationship with no means of escape without being an outcast.

I never said Asian women are slaves. I said people stereotype them that way.

Just to be clear, I'm not saying their culture is any better or worse than my home culture. Every culture has blindsides or extremes. In the US(my home country), there are a lot of games and a lot of noncommittal people who don't want to settle down. I'm not into that, either. There's a balance.