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The聽 ATM thing is always hangin around as David mentions but women want security so expect that is part of the bargain.
But yeah be careful and think with your cabaza arriba no la de abajo.聽 Anything is possible.
As for the money sure most are looking for security. Some are going to lie and pretend love etc and just be looking for money.
If someone cant figure that out then they maybe get what they deserve.
And Gringas being best? Come on what kind of person believes that. Gringas are much more problematic in general and carry a lot of baggage than most latinas.
And kids yes you will probably have to be involved with to some degree but depending on the kids that may not be all bad either.
Luckily I never had kids nor did my wife so we dont have that problem.
best of luck expat 707. Keep trying and it is possible. Although do be careful.
My ideal partner would be someone that has built their own life independently. Has a college education, regular job - a professional outlook teaches people many things that apply to personal life. I understand that limits the choices to mainly around San Jose area. Parts of which are Gringo like. Is it reasonable to find English speaking Ticas who are familiar with Western customs, they might have travelled the world through their jobs, developed a broader outlook. I am trying to limit the cultural differences and wondering if that's a real possibility.
Personally for myself, I have very realistic expectations. While I will try to embrace CR culture, it's going to take lot of time. It not easy to move from 1st world to a developing country, leave your social network and move to a new world. Plus I don't know Spanish at all, and it will be a very slow learning process to develop any decent fluency that one can have in-depth conversations. There is a huge cultural divide for sure. Thus I am looking for a Tica who is closer to Western culture than I am to their culture. Not sure if it's realistic at all. So, looking to this forum for advice and real world experiences.
1. Latinas seem to have a much longer list of ex'es than Gringas. Why is that, is it harder for them to maintain relationships?
2. There's much more teenage pregnancies, unwed mothers, single mothers in Latin culture. On one hand, they are known to be very family oriented. But then why so many single mothers where kids are raised in 'broken' families?
3. Likewise, they can have multiple kids, often from different fathers. This feels so weird
4. Infidelity is much higher in their culture. Why is that?
I鈥檝e been living here coming up on 2 years and dated some here. It鈥檚 difficult because many don鈥檛 speak English, they will look at you as a rich gringo and Tica鈥檚 are extremely extremely jealous.聽 Check with the embassy to get some guidance, I have a friend who works for US embassy here and most what comes across her desk is American men getting robbed and some killed.聽 CR has legal prostitution and many Will join Tinder looking for a Gringo to Roll
I have a great Tica lady now but took me a year and a half in the weeds to find her
Just proceed with caution and good luck in your move

I have been drawn towards Latin culture for their warm, friendly and easy going outlook in life. However, there are certain aspects of Latinas which I find very intriguing
1. Latinas seem to have a much longer list of ex'es than Gringas. Why is that, is it harder for them to maintain relationships?
2. There's much more teenage pregnancies, unwed mothers, single mothers in Latin culture. On one hand, they are known to be very family oriented. But then why so many single mothers where kids are raised in 'broken' families?
3. Likewise, they can have multiple kids, often from different fathers. This feels so weird
4. Infidelity is much higher in their culture. Why is that?
The end result of all this is just what you described. I know you specifically asked about Costa Rica but there are lots of parallels, and no one else was answering..
When we see things like "kids being born out of wedlock", "long history of ex-es", "domestic violence".. Can Ticas make for loyal partners if they are cared and supported well in relationship?
Go online to find a woman with your requirements list.聽 That is how I met mi novia.聽 I would take a Tica over a gringa any day of the week.聽 No offence to any gringa reading this, just my own experience.聽 Tica's love their FAITHFUL mates, and their families.聽 If you get a Tica your getting her family too.聽 If it's a poor family it is their natural expectation you will help them.聽 Hence the prior ATM comment.
Tica have the right away with it comes to the laws here Dating /living together or Marriage
I have a friend at the US embassy here and she tells me the daily stories of the American guys banging on the door because the were hustled by a Tica
some Americans have even vanished
You will here a few famous Gringo/Tica stories when you spend time here
I was lucky to meet a Successful Gorgeous Intelligent Tica who speaks English and things have been going great
But on the flip side I have met some serious jealous Tica鈥檚 and some looking for the ATM guy,
My advise just keep you guard up at all times and don鈥檛 sleep with them at first or take them back to your place
I hear many like to extort gringos by threatening to go to the police or OIJ that they have been raped
Communication was my biggest problem meeting a Tica. Not many speak English
Rather then thinking CR is all paradise
I'm not living in CR yet, but am looking forward to starting my adventure and embracing a new culture... the good and the bad.
As members repeatedly say in here. Come and experience CR for yourself and see if it鈥檚 right for you
We all see it differently through our eyes and we all live in different areas of CR
A lot of my negative post are from what I have experienced in the Escazu and San Jose area
Now that I鈥檓 in the mountains tops of Puriscal it鈥檚 a different CR to me.
All an All I鈥檓 have been digging my 2 years here with the Good and the Bad.
Just come with a open mind and stay cautious just like in any Central America country you decide to visit or call home
If you decide to date go slow (guys or girls). Also I learned a new Scary fact last week. Herpes is very big issue here because Tico men run around a lot with Ticas and prostitutes AND THEY DO NOT USE CONDOMS
so infection rate is big here.聽 I met a girl who was professional business woman and thanks she was honest with me that she had herpes from her last boyfriend
So please use you head on your shoulders before the other. and lady鈥檚 please do the same
Hope I don鈥檛 offend anyone with this just figured it was something we should know about
Tinder and Bumble work in CR just be prepared many don鈥檛 speak English so you will have to with do translator or not accept connection
I met my current Tica on Tinder
Finding a woman who doesn't have or want kids is nearly impossible anywhere, but especially here. (You didn't mention if you want kids or not but if not ,then your goal will be much harder to reach.) The younger women who date are either with kids from a dad who left them, or will want to have kids. The older ones will already have kids for sure.
And like someone said above you will be marrying into the family and it is true that they see all Gringos as rich even if you're not. If you like family life then it could work out well for you if you manage to avoid the gold diggers. My advice is don't get married for at least several years after being with someone.
I think you could certainly date (though learning Spanish will help a lot!) but finding someone who is younger than you or your age even, without kids or doesn't want kids is a needle in a haystack.
And marriage here is complicated. If you get someone pregnant and didn't want to you are really screwed. They'll do a DNA test and you'll PAY for the child if they can find you.
And yes, the "living with" situation could also get you in trouble at 3 years when it's something like "common law" marriage.
So it all depends on what you want. There are definitely good Ticas who would be good wives!
So again, if that sounds okay to you, go for it. If not, try meeting a gringa instead. Much better chance of finding a gringa who doesn't want kids and has a steady professional job. And here even professional women don't make much money for the most part.
But anywhere in the world, most women want kids and if they have kids and are single they want a dad for the kids. That's just a fact of life.
sporto505 wrote:IMHO, Costa Rica is a great country to live in but not a good country to learn espanol in.聽 Ticos talk fast and cut off syllables in their words.聽 It is to me almost impossible to understand because even if you can recognize a word, in spanish context is everything.聽 .聽 If you want to learn spanish, go live in Columbia for a few years.聽 In general Columbian's pronounce their words and speak much slower.聽 Get to where you can understand what they are saying THEN move to Costa Rica and you might have a chance of leaning Tico espanol.聽 聽
Go online to find a woman with your requirements list.聽 That is how I met mi novia.聽 I would take a Tica over a gringa any day of the week.聽 No offence to any gringa reading this, just my own experience.聽 Tica's love their FAITHFUL mates, and their families.聽 If you get a Tica your getting her family too.聽 If it's a poor family it is their natural expectation you will help them.聽 Hence the prior ATM comment.
I learned Spanish at a school in San Jose (after having studied quite a bit in the USA with non-native teachers). In San Jose the school I went to taught very proper Spanish.
And most of the people in San Jose speak better Spanish than in the back country and beaches here.
I can almost always understand the people in San Jose. But in the country side where I live I can barely understand them at all sometimes. My friend (Tico) speaks very bad Spanish and he mumbles and slurs words etc and I have learned to understand him about 80% of the time but still I have to ask him to repeat stuff often. My wife spoke fluent Spanish and even she had trouble understanding some of the people around here! She also had a Peruvian friend in the US who spoke so fast she couldn't understand her half the time!
I think the only way to learn the Spanish "of the back country" in Costa Rica is to first learn Spanish then just spend a lot of time talking to people in the region you live in. But yea, some of the people "out in the country" are VERY hard to understand. In San Jose I understand almost everyone. Not here in the countryside.
Bottom line is I don't think there's anything wrong with learning Spanish in Costa Rica. Wherever you learn it you will likely NOT find it easy to understand people in the campo or countryside in Costa Rica. But you will eventually learn enough to understand most of it.
And it takes years of practice for most people to speak and understand Spanish fluently. But you will learn much faster when you live in a Spanish speaking country and/or have a Spanish speaking girlfriend!
And some learn faster than others.
What I will say is that it is, to me, ESSENTIAL to learn Spanish if you're going to live here. Without it you will miss out on too much! Just jump in, start learning asap even if it's just online, and study the books for verb conjugations and vocabulary meanings too. All that will focus you and you will learn faster. Also try watching tv like soap operas in Spanish - if possible, with subtitles in Spanish so you can see the words as they speak them.
YES NICA IS CHEAPER BUT聽 NOT WORTH THE DANGER AND POLITICAL COMMUNISTIC聽 G0VERNMENT ...
I know.Nicaragua聽 well and I would NEVER move there..
Words of advice also about LATIN WOMEN IN GENERAL.. IN BOTH COUNTRIES.. the latin womenwant Gringos to support tham and their families ...and聽 IN IT聽 JUST AS OPPORTUNISTS FOR THE STUPOD MENTALITY OF MANY GRINGOS.WHO CANNOT TELL A PHONY HOOKER,聽 POSING AS SCHOOL TEACHER , FROM A HOLE IN HIS HEAD...(HE MAY GET ONE NAVE IDIOTS MAKE ME LAUGH... GET A LIFE GRINGOS ...
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