Dealing with loneliness in Colombia
Expatriation can be a fun and exciting adventure, but it can also be a bit lonely at times. Please share with us some tips for dealing with loneliness.
What are some potential factors that lead to loneliness when moving to Colombia?
How do you deal with feelings of loneliness?
Is it easy to expand or create a social network in Colombia?
Are there any activities or events that encourage social meet ups and networking opportunities?
Thank you for sharing your experience,
Priscilla
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As I'm sure you know, there are all shades and colors of people in Colombia and light skin is not at all uncommon in many places.聽 Speaking Spanish fluently should help you connect with people if you do some volunteer work - depending on where you are there may be dozens of volunteer activities available, in schools, hospitals, animal shelters, working with the poor, teaching reading, teaching English, it goes on and on:
To be able to help others and make a difference in their lives can be very rewarding for one's personal development - and keeping busy, you don't have time to be lonely!
Also, if you ever find the right person to marry in Colombia, that opens the door to many family activities with not only the immediate family but also grandparents, aunts and uncles, nieces and nephews and all the family friends - it is a blessing if/when they also welcome you with open arms and un c谩lido abrazo.
Are you aware of a Facebook group that may still hold such meetups?
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Priscilla wrote:What are some potential factors that lead to loneliness when moving to Colombia?
1.聽 Language barrier for those who do not have conversational Spanish.
2.聽 Perceived cultural barriers in smaller towns and cities where Gringos are few.
3.聽 Lack of Expat meetups except for the largest cities.聽 Even Cali Expats seem to have stumbled in attempts to have a group.
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Priscilla wrote:Is it easy to expand or create a social network in Colombia?
That depends.聽 Depends on how gregarious you are, how motivated in this you are, how conversationally fluent you are, whether you have a spouse, relative or friends whose networks you can tap into.
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Priscilla wrote:Are there any activities or events that encourage social meet ups and networking opportunities?
In some Colombian cities there are Expat-friendly groups and / or meetups.
In Medell铆n, there are so-called outside groups such as Medellin G--- and Medellin L----- that meet once a month for an evening event .. and may offer interest subgroups that meet separately.
In Bogot谩 and Medell铆n, Inter------ holds regular meetings.
There have been meetups at Gringo Tuesdays in Bucaramanga, according to a former Buca Expat.
There have been reports of a Facebook group that meets regularly in the largest city of the Coffee Zone.
There have been sporadic attempts at getting folks together in Cali.
The coastal cities, to my knowledge, do not have Expat-ready meetups.聽 Talking about such well-known places as Cartagena, Santa Marta and Barranquilla.聽
In Caquet谩, C煤cuta, Ipiales, Neiva, Pasto and Popay谩n, it's doubtful you'd find any groups or meetups where English is spoken much if at all.
聽 -- cccmedia, possibly the only Gringo staying this week in Ipiales, Nari帽o
Although, always remember, haz el bien sin mirar a quien.
Earle wrote:Since I'm in Cali how can we build one up?聽 I would really like to meet folk here from foreign countries, too!
Dear Earle,
There have been many Cali threads on the forum in the last couple of years .. many of which contain posts seeking a meetup.
To locate these threads, go to the Colombia forum welcome page .. and enter Cali in the search box.聽 Then click .. and then scroll down the list of Cali/meetup threads.
Note that CaliRay has recently been seeking to create a meetup in Cali.聽 I suggest you sent him a PM message accessing his PM inbox via the icon at one of his posts.
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Earle wrote:Why have (Cali meetups) not come about so much here ?
IMO, somebody needs to take the initiative to do more than say I'd like to attend a meetup.
This could mean....
1.聽 Choosing a central place with specific time and date, for instance at a restaurant starting on a weekday at 7 p.m.
2.聽 Arrange with the restaurant for a section where the group can meet on that date.
3.聽 Actively promote the event on this site (and possibly elsewhere).聽 There may be a special section of expat.com to promote the event -- contact the Home Office to find out where that section is.聽 Post in the Colombia forums of expat.com ...
4.聽 Send PM's to active members in Cali, inviting/reminding them of the event.
5.聽 Work or meet with CaliRay and others who have shown recent interest, to aumentar the vibe for the upcoming event.
6.聽 Hold the event, and afterwards, post photos and comments on this site.
7.聽 Plan another event and promote it.聽 "Rinse and repeat."
聽 聽cccmedia
Since you like to hike, you should be aware that in Cali there are people who regularly hike/run up the path to the top of Cerro de las Tres Cruces.聽 The path starts in Barrio Granada, you could ask people who live there.聽 I'm sure the friendly 肠补濒别帽辞蝉 would be pleased to have a foreigner hike up with them.
Also the local paper El Pa铆s which is also on-line lists and promotes activities updated throughout the week, many of them ecological and nature oriented such as hikes to Pico de Loro in the Farallones park, under their Plan Ciudad section:
You need to try to get into their hearts and minds to really understand where they are coming from.
They may express something with a smile, but in essence they are telling you something that affects them deeply.
There is no doubt that family, health, money, work, and education play a big part of their lives.
But try to be understanding of even the smallest thing that affects them. They sense that.
Many see us foreigners as an escape from hardships, but not of love. They will respect you more if you are on an equal plane with them.
Im Canadian. Im blue eyed and blond. tall. I am a pensioner. I take very good care of my health so I am not fat and ugly. That puts all the odds into my favor here. Because of Canadas excellent international reputation I thrive in Colombia. And in all other Latin America countries as a matter of fact.
I rent an apartment in Armenia Colombia. This is my home.
I came here to experience a different culture. Im glad I did and I tell that to the Colombianos. I wear a yellow team shirt because I love the passions surrounding Colombias team. I share their sorrow of the defeat to England. I did not come here to bring Canada with me.
That philosophy has made my journey so so pleasant. My amigas and amigos see me as a member I think. I certainly feel I am a part of Colombia now. Everywhere I go I am greeted with smiles and interest. Yeah yeah I know there are idiotic predators out there but I聽 use the聽 "I CHOOSE" rule to keep the risk low.
Yeah your looks can give you an advantage. But you have to look good on the inside too.
You should not fixate on skin color and appearance - certainly the Colombians don't!聽 Many families in Colombia including my wife's in Cali have people from lily white to dark black and they get along just fine - and that's a reflection of Colombian society overall, although there does exist discrimination against blacks and indigenous people among the ignorant.聽 But not so much against large, blond, Canadian (or US) looking people!
As a US American I don't blend in, except and until I tan and wear a Panam谩 hat, then some say I look somewhat like a paisa...but even without any sort of "disguise" the Colombian people treat me well, que me consienten mucho, especially when I take an interest in them and ask good questions - they are happy to explain aspects of their culture.聽 But they can also be suspicious of people who are overly friendly - everyone is always thinking no dar papaya.
Many people would love to be in your situation - as a foreigner, holding Colombian citizenship, speaking Spanish fluently - count your blessings!聽 And as previously mentioned, try thinking more about others instead of thinking about yourself and dwelling on your problems - if you help other people with their problems, you may find some true friendships (although there will still be many who will just try to take advantage of you, ja ja).
I have witnessed other expats treat Colombianos (and other countries too) with great disrespect. It is obvious that they think they are superior to the peoples of this culture. I am not better, I am different. My amigas and amigos are not around me to run errands and suck up for money. They are my peers. And probably my superiors in many ways.
Yeah I know yer gonna say yes they will like you for your money. Thats why you will feel lonely.
I have witnessed other expats treat Colombianos (and other countries too) with great disrespect. It is obvious that they think they are superior to the peoples of this culture. I am not better, I am different. My amigas and amigos are not around me to run errands and suck up for money. They are my peers. And probably my superiors in many ways.
Yeah I know some are gonna say yes they will like you for your money. Thats a reason some will feel lonely. Wrong idea because it is not us and they.
Cali aye? or Pereira aye?
Hello marta57,
Since you are participating in an English-speaking forum, you are recommended to write in English only.
Should you want to communicate in Spanish, you can do it here > Foro Colombia
Thank you,
Cheryl
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