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Why the morally suspicious behaviour of some Vietnamese people? by WillyBaldy
I've had this question for a long time but it's very subtle and not easy to correctly express. I don't want the question to sound like "Why are so many Vietnamese people morally corrupt?" because it's not really want I want ...
She is like MOST people - she was seeing how far she could go. I've had this with long-time professional business people - ALL OF THE TIME. They try to get something for nothing - or very little. IMO... it's the way of the world. Read More
Foreigners allowed to change visa status while in Vi峄噒 Nam
I don't know if this has been posted here, but I saw this on Facebook and I think it would affect MANY here. H脌 N峄業 鈥� The National Assembly (NA) on Monday voted for amendments to the immigration law, for the first time allowing ... Read More
Vietnam. Police state.? by Daneb51
I am retired and considering a move to Vietnam. I am a child of the 60鈥檚. How vigorous are the police? Thanks
IF you can afford it. Otherwise, it's a crap shoot. The justice system in the US is skewed to the wealthy. Fact, not fiction. Read More
Vietnam. Police state.? by Daneb51
I am retired and considering a move to Vietnam. I am a child of the 60鈥檚. How vigorous are the police? Thanks
I wouldn't consider Vietnam to be a police state... though I've only been to Da Nang and Hoi An. The police presence is more visible than in the US, but I've never seen anything that could be construed as abuse - and my Vietnamese wife ... Read More
Marrying Vietnamese woman by GertrudeW
I am seeking advice. A very good family friend met Vietnamese girl (he is 58 she is 28) online. He travels to Vietnam regularly & has many expat friends. They have tried to warn him. He sends lots of money, sometimes $500 per week. Within a year ...
I don't see how this is possible. To marry in Vietnam, you need certain paperwork - such as an affidavit of being single, divorce paperwork notarized and sealed by the state secretary of state... and what they call a "certificate of no ... Read More
Marrying Vietnamese woman by GertrudeW
I am seeking advice. A very good family friend met Vietnamese girl (he is 58 she is 28) online. He travels to Vietnam regularly & has many expat friends. They have tried to warn him. He sends lots of money, sometimes $500 per week. Within a year ...
Sorry vndreamer, but we can only go by what people POST. And it is quite clear that Oceanbeach was indeed standing up for Vietnamese women. The fact that you cannot see that is sad. Sorry, had to respond. If you don't want another response... ... Read More
Marrying Vietnamese woman by GertrudeW
I am seeking advice. A very good family friend met Vietnamese girl (he is 58 she is 28) online. He travels to Vietnam regularly & has many expat friends. They have tried to warn him. He sends lots of money, sometimes $500 per week. Within a year ...
No, YOU misunderstood. His opening line was: "It's getting really irritating listening to mostly men talking about why and how Vietnamese women fall in love and get married." And MOST of those in this thread have not been kind to ... Read More
Marrying Vietnamese woman by GertrudeW
I am seeking advice. A very good family friend met Vietnamese girl (he is 58 she is 28) online. He travels to Vietnam regularly & has many expat friends. They have tried to warn him. He sends lots of money, sometimes $500 per week. Within a year ...
Why would you disagree with Oceanbeaches post? He essentially agrees with you - as does Ciambella. I'm guessing that you misunderstood his post. Read More
Marrying Vietnamese woman by GertrudeW
I am seeking advice. A very good family friend met Vietnamese girl (he is 58 she is 28) online. He travels to Vietnam regularly & has many expat friends. They have tried to warn him. He sends lots of money, sometimes $500 per week. Within a year ...
I've spoken up, not for myself since my marriage with a Westerner (English Canadian) took place in the States after I already became an American through and through...I wish I could like this 1000+ times! Thank you for the details and ... Read More
Marrying Vietnamese woman by GertrudeW
I am seeking advice. A very good family friend met Vietnamese girl (he is 58 she is 28) online. He travels to Vietnam regularly & has many expat friends. They have tried to warn him. He sends lots of money, sometimes $500 per week. Within a year ...
Uhmm.... no, she's not... "one of the good ones. " Apparently you haven't found the proper venue to REALLY see "one of the good ones." My wife never asked me about my job or how much money I made. She never even ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
The notion of "no money" for you can be very different than the notion of "Westerner with no money" for a local Vietnamese. Just your citizenship can be worth a lot for her in the long term. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Apparently you like moving the goal posts. What was it that YOU said here on THIS FORUM? Oh yes.... The point is that same culture marriages have a 50-50 chance ( and that doesn't mean that 50% who don't divorce are necssarily happy) and ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Yeah, I think you do. IF.... divorce rates WITHIN your own culture are 50%.... According to YOUR logic.... it would stand to reason that it SHOULD be HIGHER when marrying OUTSIDE of your culture. But.. it isn't. Wow... YOU may think ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
I don't think you quite understand what YOU wrote. 50% of marriages end in divorce - THE SAME PERCENTAGE as those who marry those from another culture. If ANYTHING, this means that "marrying within your own culture" should be BETTER ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
I didn't make this assertion. But it really makes little difference even if I had, because... Even the VN -VN marriages end 50% of the time. Time always settles the argument here. Of course we wish you well but most things in life don't ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
I think that reasonably covers it. I might rephrase the "The wide eyed optimists" into "Seeing the relationship with both eyes wide open." At 58 years old... I am not someone who jumps in with both feet without checking the ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
It's not about "aligning with my view," it's about GENERALIZING an entire people. And that is precisely what you have done. And you have maligned them in the process. Perhaps you don't see it, but I think that you do quite ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Diaso.... sweetheart.... just annoyed at the idiotic comments. ;) I don't think any who have given there two sense are trying to denigrate anyone in anyway. Some things are just the facts of living here.It's two cents. Really? Not trying ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
And yet another person who posts without reading MY posts. I had a few questions in the early part of this thread - AND THEY WERE ANSWERED. The bigger hurdle will be the USA visa. Simply because there are little work arounds. Start dealing with ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
I find it simply amazing that you can stereotype an entire people. I find it simply amazing that you can denigrate an entire people. SMH Maybe that is why she loves you so much. You know they will pay $50-75k a head in order to get someone to help ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Forcing marriage? Strangely enough I don't see anything remotely like that. I HAVE visited Vietnam and met her AND her children AND stayed with them the entire time. I also Skype video call EVERY SINGLE DAY and talk not only with her but also ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
OMG... So? This thread went off topic. Ctrl-Alt-Del and explode. As long as there is no talk of "sub humans" who the hell cares? If someone here started another thread about "superstitions and marriage," I might miss it. Is it ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
It's not about being interested in it, it's about a part of Vietnamese culture which does indeed relate to marriage. How many Westerners scoff at anything paranormal - doing so within a Vietnamese family that believes is NOT conducive to a ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
He relied on fortune tellers too. ;) Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Fascinating. I've never seen one, but I am also someone who says we don't know everything there is to know. Somethings cannot yet be explained. And ghosts are definitely a possibility. Anyone who dismisses them out-of-hand obviously has a ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Yeah... far more superstitious than most Americans. But at least I don't see it as being worrisome. In a way it's kind of endearing. And the Feng Shui... many people in the US also believe this and pay people to come into their homes and ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Cynicism will never be conducive to a good marriage. Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
This is interesting, because my future wife has said that "traditional" Vietnamese ALWAYS follow the husband. The wife is usually in charge of everything within the house, but the husband always makes the decisions. Of course this is ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Absolutely. Respect of the beliefs of others SHOULD be universal - otherwise how can anyone expect their marriage to survive and thrive? I am agnostic and my future wife is Buddhist - we've discussed this at length. I don't believe... but ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
LOL... I guess learning about the culture for several years and talking with many people who've been there and KNOW the culture as well as those who have married Vietnamese... makes me naive? Thanks for your "last warning." I will ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
I am neither passive nor controlling. In relationships... both parties get equal billing. This is what I learned from my parents and what I have told my future wife. She understand this, but still often defers to me. If your looking for a young ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
You may be right... but then... I'm 58 and have little money. So there is no worry about anyone trying to take money. And she knows I am not wealthy... simply wants a good husband who will not drink to excess and will not cheat on her... and ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Or the Embassy will have to verify - US Embassy?I will have several of the forms ready next week, so I'll go to the Notary and see if he/she knows anything about a "Certificate of No Marriage." But from what I've seen from Notaries ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Are you sure you are asking for it by the proper name? Instead of asking by a specific name, describe what you need. I know my state of Hawaii has exactly such a document but they call it a "Certificate of No Marriage Records." Technically it ... Read More
Marrying a Vietnamese woman by schleger
Hello, I am a 58 year old teacher and plan on moving to Vietnam at the end of December and I am looking for advice on the marrying process. I will be moving to the hanoi area, getting a teaching job for a few years. I have a pension from teaching ...
Yes, I can see this part is quite a bit more challenging. I will be marrying a Vietnamese woman this October, and upon contacting the Vietnamese embassy in NY they told me that this Certificate of No Marriage can be obtained from my states office ... Read More