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danonita wrote:

well, l want to advise you Don't trust. I met my Morrocan husband on a site, he was so talkative, charming, caring about me every day. We got married, and puff! he become controlling, possesive, talk just a bit... and yes every time he is nice is for asking me money.

I am sorry to hear this.

GuestPoster7420 wrote:

I met a young Moroccan man in a 鈥� social media forum鈥� a few month ago and we emediately hit it off. We began speaking every day. I鈥檝e been to Morocco and visit him and his family. I am soon going back but are now having second thaughts.....We had a few misunderstandings, but we solved them. I am 15 years older than him. He says he can not have children and was married once before. Am I totally naive and refuse to see the signs? Is he using me for money? A better life? I am already in love with him but as they say, love is blind.....Need some input.

Yes!

If you are lovesick you will not see it no matter who warns you.

You should look at life practically and not romantically.

A relationship should be realistic:

You are 15 years older and no matter at what stage in life you are at (it could be 30s, 40, 50s, or 60s) if he is 15 years younger, you are in different stages in life which makes the chances of it working low. The difference in culture will make the chance even lower and the religion will eat up a lot of the chance of this being successful not to mention the language barrier.

If your 鈥渓ove鈥� can overcome this then go for it but look at this practically. Forget the fantasy for a minute, when things become real like day to day living and eating bread and him leaving with his friends often or the nonstop family gatherings with the Drija chitchat, how is it going to be? There are few who will understand me.

Good luck my dear.

DarlaHouston07 wrote:

What about those decent Muslim women who had the dumb luck to have all their family die? I have no chaperone but that doesn鈥檛 make me less marriageable.

Don鈥檛 worry my dear there is always a solution. Their will be someone who can be appointed as wail (guardian).

It鈥檚 quite logical. Women can easily be sold a dream , which ends up being far from reality where as another man would smell a rat. It鈥檚 not like women can鈥檛 think for themselves but if there is another man looking out for their interests then odds become better.

globewalker wrote:

Goldkhalifa,

LOL....
That is what every society wants you to think.
There is the ideal and the reality.
If you are religious and are only around people in these circles this is what you see.
Also people will act differently around you in fear of being judge.
People that are not religious may even go out of their way to avoid you.

As you are not "actually" Moroccan why should your view of Morocco or Moroccan culture be more valid then anyone else's posted here?聽 I am not saying your opinion holds no weight, but it is just your opinion and not the mater of fact truth on the issue.聽 Unless you have some special PHD in Moroccan studies and show the degree to prove it I don't think there is any reason why people should accept what you are saying as anything more then one person's personal opinion.聽 Being Married to a person from Morocco does not mean you have a universal understanding of all Moroccan people.

Morocco is not a socially uniform society.聽 Most places are not.聽 If you actually travel throughout the country and associated with people in all socio-economic classes in the country this is more obvious.

If all these people are sharing these stories then these issues are obviously A LOT more common then certain people what want to accept.

You totally missed the point and didn鈥檛 understand what I said, even though it was quite clear.

All these disaster stories all have a common theme - which is people getting together when they are not by any means equally matched. For example, to help you understand;

Rich woman and poor man
Old woman and young man
Non practising Muslim man and foreign non Muslim rich woman
Handsome man and not so pretty foreign woman

I couldn鈥檛 be bothered to reply everything you wrote as it was just rubbish really. There are two main subjects on this site. The subject we are discussing and how to get married in Morocco as a foreigner. That doesn鈥檛 mean either of these issues are common issues, it鈥檚 just this is an English language expat site so that鈥檚 where people will post on these subjects.

But out of interest what credentials do you have that makes your opinions valid (in your own mind)?

globewalker wrote:

Goldkhalifa,

I agree with a lot of what you said ex people not marrying someone in a similar position.
I am also not saying more opinion is more valid then yours or anyone else's on this topic.
I am trying to point out we all have our bias based on who we are.聽 We see the world mainly through our own eyes.

All perceptions are valid even if they are different.

My qualifications are comparable to yours ex having family from or in Morocco.

However, I am not religious and you appear to be.聽 So where we choose to go, who we choose to be around, how and what people share with us is very different.聽 I am also female and I think you are male.聽 This also impacts who says what to us too.

This gives both of us very different experiences in life.

Ok no worries

Mainly my comments where countering the perception people get of Morocco from things like this.

I follow a religion but that doesn鈥檛 prevent me meeting all walks of life. Yes I am a man, I thought you was too!

Also none of my comments where at this lady鈥檚 bad experience, every situation is different and was only generalising so hope not to have offended