Dowry traditions

5POSTS

4 years ago

I am planning to go to Cambodia to meet my girlfriend in person for the first time. Things are going well. We are even discussing marriage. Though I have not proposed.
I've hear that a dowry can be over $10,000. This is a scary amount of money for me.
Is there an article about what I can expect?
Will I be expected to bring up the topic?
I asked her once, she said that she didn't want to talk about money. I dropped the subject.
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Me: a bus driver. Divorced. No children.
Her: early 30s. works in a store. Divorced. No children.
I have lots of other concerns. Feel free to give advice off topic.
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I have done a lot of scam baiting. She looks legit, no red flags yet.
We initially met in October.

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Fred Indonesia Expert

30549POSTS

4 years ago

I have no clue at all, but Google may help

d20ratman New member

5POSTS

4 years ago

Thsnks. That was helpful.
I had already read the first article, but not the second.
Hopefully more people will post.

GuestPoster303 Guest

0POSTS

4 years ago

Slow it up , meet the family , if you have met your future wife and not the family then you still know nothing about her! Family will make up 90% of your relationship, this might prove to be good or bad, taking care of their daughter will be enough for good families, but one or more will always be in your pockets, just like in the good ol USA , ha but family plays a Hugh roll in your relationship, you might not know it yet, but you will find out, my best advice buy something really nice for her mother, always give any money or gifts to the mother, they are better able to handle it, women run the show here and all of Southeast Asia, you need more time don鈥檛 rush, get to know the situation, but not all family expect money, see if they have good intentions, you cannot see this until you arrive, the culture is so different it takes a while for a westerner to understand, but it鈥檚 good to understand and for them to understand NO

d20ratman New member

5POSTS

4 years ago

Thanks. I do plan to meet the family.
A gift? Of money? How much?
Is there a custom to follow, so as not to appear crass?

GuestPoster303 Guest

0POSTS

4 years ago

Better a nice gift , practical, but not money first time this would in my opinion lead to someone who expecting money, nice cooking items, or depending on the women , I always bring a bottle of Dior perfume to my ex lady lady in Phnom Penh , she has been overly kind to me, her husband nothing, but he鈥檚 happier than her, she knows it鈥檚 real from USA and she knows it鈥檚 expensive, but a province woman might like something more practical, I would bring her a Hugh fruit display and flower display gotten at the market, then figure out what they need, I bought a microwave for a friends mother in the province, she loved it, the Phnom Penh landlady has more sophisticated taste , ha but 150$ worth of Dior, I鈥檓 a hero each time , head of house women, please her ,,,,and your golden!

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