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Gosh! its like picking sea shells at the beach. Pinoys are mostly friendly and the ladies are every much open to you, once they like you. My first year of being in the country, almost every girl i met was single lol. It was in due time that i found out most were not, they were only single when they wanted to.

Priscilla wrote:

How do you go about meeting people (through friends, online dating, apps, meetup groups)?

In my experience you can meet through all of the above stated ways. My college mates will introduce me with 4 to 5 of his cousins who were single and willing to go on a date with me. There are times too, i and friends will randomly meet a group of ladies having coffee, so we join them and have what one can clarify as a "group date". As for online dating and apps. You name it, you can find a whole lot to choose from. Most expats meet their significant other through apps and online websites, such as the one mentioned above. Mind you most of these apps and websites are full of scammers and gold diggers. knowing how to "fish" good from bad in dating apps and websites is a mastery of art learned by few as they get acquitted to the system.

Priscilla wrote:

How safe is it to date in the Philippines?

Very safe. Again most travel to Philippines to find love or companionship. Pionys as earlier mentioned are caring, lovable and often-mostly reliable. Due to this, there are a lot of cafes, restaurants among other attractive tourist sites you could take your dates too. Most of these dates wont be expensive and are in open areas within the CBD.

Priscilla wrote:

How do you deal with cultural differences when dating?

Now that is on individual basis. From my experience cultural difference, although a few had a great impact on my relationship, there were often times, what was deemed OK for her was not for me. From were i came from, dating is more conservative in a different direction than it is in the Philippines. But i slowly adjusted to the openers of their culture and things become a lot easier. The only downside of dating i found in the Philippines was not being able to connect intellectually with my dates. Most of my dating was basically eating out, walking in parks or malls, at times the movies and all with little conversation, as they will say they are shy or not fluent in English. It was OK with me in my first year but as time went on i found it not attractive, as i wanted to connect with my dates intellectually.聽 This is so for me because, when my date becomes my GF it gradually becomes clear with me that aside from having fun we did not talk much or do much of things that sounded like we were growing as a couple.

Priscilla wrote:

What are certain dating etiquettes and rules when dating in the Philippines?

1. Be friendly
2. Choose you date wisely. As already mentioned not all are seeking relationship. Well we all have our reasons for dating. Just make sure you know yours. Cause i have witnessed a lot my expat friends get into bad problems just by dating the wrong individual.
3. Nothing expensive. Going to a mall, movies or even eating at a fast food joint is good enough for most.
4. Know the difference between gay and non gay's so not to sound offensive on the day of the date.
5. Always make your intentions clear to your date.
6. Know their ages. Some lie.
7. Know their real relationship status. Most are in a long and active relationship but would lie about it till you find out the sad and wrong way.
8. Never fall in love quickly with your date. Give it a lot of time and think before.

Priscilla wrote:

How do you deal with getting into a serious relationship if you know you might be leaving the Philippines?

Well a lot like me did find a serious relationship and leaving was always inevitable. The only thing you can do if you know you are not coming back once you leave the Philippines is聽 to arrange in time for your panther to travel with you. Or in most cases like me, do always come back to the Philippines till you are married. A lot of expats are in serious relationships even with them being outside the Philippines as most do actually come to find love here. Once the trust and faithfulness is established in the relationship you both will find a way to cope things out.

Everything mentioned is subjected to my personal experience and opinion.

Thank.

flex14 wrote:

The only thing you can do if you know you are not coming back once you leave the Philippines is聽 to arrange in time for your panther to travel with you.

Darn that auto correct. LOL. At least it didn't auto correct to "panties."

I've had worse, like almost sending a text to my client, asking if he's satan. Glad I noticed it before sending.

Another time, I texted a former co-worker asking if he was a kumquat. I didn't notice the auto correct until after the text was sent. LOL.

FilAmericanMom wrote:

flex14 wrote:

The only thing you can do if you know you are not coming back once you leave the Philippines is聽 to arrange in time for your panther to travel with you.

Darn that auto correct. LOL. At least it didn't auto correct to "panties."

I've had worse, like almost sending a text to my client, asking if he's satan. Glad I noticed it before sending.

Another time, I texted a former co-worker asking if he was a kumquat. I didn't notice the auto correct until after the text was sent. LOL.

hahaha. it had me good here. I hope most can read through it. LOL. Thanks for pointing it out.

Greyone48 wrote:

It's tough here for both men and women but this place is no different than most. Just take you time and you have a chance to meet that certain someone...I did.

Well said Greyone, simply put and true. I like you met my "certain" significant other after numerous聽 trials and tribulations with other contenders, also expressed here and other sites by countless contributors. The simple fact is that one has to be a realist and not let an appendage rule common sense and decency, it definitely happens far too often for the unwary and as you say it matters not the country.

7 years on for us and we are still very much in love and look forward to our future together, we met on a dating site so obviously not all bad.

Cheers, Steve.

flex14 wrote:

Since i got a bit of time to write:

Priscilla wrote:

Is it easy to meet other fellow single people in the Philippines?

Gosh! its like picking sea shells at the beach. Pinoys are mostly friendly and the ladies are every much open to you, once they like you. My first year of being in the country, almost every girl i met was single lol. It was in due time that i found out most were not, they were only single when they wanted to.

I found this to really be true. Many women aren't really single - they are either legally married and unable to divorce, or have a secret boyfriend, or have multiple overseas sponsors.

Priscilla wrote:

How do you deal with cultural differences when dating?

Now that is on individual basis. From my experience cultural difference, although a few had a great impact on my relationship, there were often times, what was deemed OK for her was not for me. From were i came from, dating is more conservative in a different direction than it is in the Philippines. But i slowly adjusted to the openers of their culture and things become a lot easier. The only downside of dating i found in the Philippines was not being able to connect intellectually with my dates. Most of my dating was basically eating out, walking in parks or malls, at times the movies and all with little conversation, as they will say they are shy or not fluent in English. It was OK with me in my first year but as time went on i found it not attractive, as i wanted to connect with my dates intellectually.聽 This is so for me because, when my date becomes my GF it gradually becomes clear with me that aside from having fun we did not talk much or do much of things that sounded like we were growing as a couple.

This is the biggest problem I have.. the general lack of intellectual interest and ability. Even my current GF who is hard-working and wonderful in many ways did not really have an interest in world affairs or other intellectual topics when we met, although she does have a western outlook and good knowledge of healthy living habits. We are always shocked at the diet we see many Filipinos eating, for example - lots of processed and fast food. And she's finishing college now and learning to be more conversant in topics that are of an intellectual nature.聽 A lot of it really comes down to education.

moonunit0103 wrote:

I am learning a lot about the importance of family, and how materialistic we are in America.

There is plenty of materialism in the Philippines, the difference is one is expected to help any family member with his or her hand out.聽 I see many Filipinas who have found "true love" with a foreigner 30 or more years older as family members line up for help.

Greyone48 wrote:

And your contention is that it's age not judgement that is at the heart of the failures??? Really. Every olderman dreams of that younger woman often forgetting the basics of relationships. I lucked out but also smelled A LOT of flowers before picking this one.
My point is the age difference should not be a reason nor the problem but just one factor.

Nicely said Greyone, I do hear you very clearly. I learnt 8 years ago the truth of love and not the 30 odd years age difference (yes of course after many trials and tribulations as we have all been through). As said earlier in other posts love no matter age can be very real and fulfilling to genuine givers and receivers. I am as said very happy and looking forward to our life as it goes on together.

Cheers, Steve.