聽 聽 聽So this just got really weird. I am on my second day here. She met me at the airport and took a taxi about an hour to her city and things seemed to be going ok. We went to a little buffet last night with her two kids and then today we went to her mother's house, which is like a farm at the city's edge. A number of her brothers and sisters were there, I guess to meet me. They all seemed like middle-class people. Quite normal, then the plan was for her son to come and swim at the hotel, he had on swimming shorts. But when we arrived she said her X-mother in law was on her death bed so her and her son would go see her. Then an hour or two later she said the woman died and she would need to spend a few days with them and could stop by a few times a day during this time.Here is the thing: She has paid for everything so far, the Taxi, the food, she even bought a basket of fruit for me to present to her mom, which I had proposed and planned to do, but she showed up with it in the morning. I changed聽 $300. VND before we went to her moms and when I tried to pay her back for the costs, she said we can worry about it later. I guess the death is real, its just odd timing.聽 I am super sensitive to scams or persons with rich tastes so she doesn't come off as that.聽 She doesn't really seem interested in moving to the US or even going to a nearby country. When I asked her what country she would like to visit, she didn't seem to name any. She just said Cambodia is dangerous.聽 Just now, as I am typing this, she arrived for a minute to drop off a little thing for me to make coffee with, because she knows I like coffee. She asked me if she could return and spend the night here, maybe she doesn't want to go to her empty apartment.聽 聽 聽 聽 聽 -@Dannyroc3
It's only weird for you because you don't realize that you're already essentially engaged in their eyes.
Think about it: her ex-mother-in-law is her son's grandmother.
So of course that would cause an immediate change of plans.
She's paying for everything because you didn't follow advice to make sure that you had everything negotiated before you started sleeping with her.
She's treating you exactly the way a Vietnamese woman would treat her husband.
The only difference is you would provide her the money for her budget every month and then she would pay for everything that's a reasonable expense for your everyday life.
You really need to be thinking about how much you can afford for a wedding because that will be one of the big questions discussed in the future.
She wants to come back and spend the night with you because you are essentially her husband already and she wants to treat you that way.
She definitely doesn't want her husband sleeping alone in a hotel/motel without her.
There are many Vietnamese women who are not interested in living outside of Vietnam but they are very interested in finding a man who truly cares about them and cares for them.
They will give exactly that and more in return.
So you're really in a great situation unless of course you weren't ready to commit before you became involved with her so quickly.
As I mentioned before you really need to avoid hurting this woman so either decide that you are going to man up to the relationship or you are going to have a heart-to-heart with her that basically says that you aren't as prepared for commitment as she is.
Good luck!
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