Maintaining a long distance relationship as an expat in France

Bhavna Team

Member since 01 June 2015

BhavnaTeam18 September 2019 05:24:33

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Hello everyone,

Moving to France without your significant other can be quite difficult, especially since your partner is an undeniable source of support. This kind of move may require some adjustments from both parties in order to make it a successful one.

What is challenging about being in a long distance relationship in France?

How to maintain an adequate level of communication considering differing schedules and time zones?

How often would you travel to each other聮s location to meet?

How do you manage to still have a social life in France?

What hurdles need to be considered if you have left behind children who are under the sole care of your partner?

Thanks for sharing your experience,
Bhavna

Priscillinia Member

Member since 10 April 2019

PriscilliniaMember24 September 2019 11:22:20

Long distance is nearly impossible long term, you must have a point where you have discussed the time frame that you will be back or that they will move here. 陌 believe it is an obvious unsaid, that children of course change the scenario and there a plethora of other things.
聽聽聽 For basics, it will depend on your length of time here. If your time in France is quite short, then with the help of video calls, and phone time, it is possible. If it's longer than a few months, 陌 would say that certainly flying out to see each other is a must, over 2 months can put a severe strain on the both of you. Frequent visits every 1-2 months maximum will raise the relationships chance of survival.
聽聽聽陌 left my last relationship when I knew I was going to live in France. Not the only reason, but certainly the main one. We had a sit down discussion, spoke of many things and what we wanted in life, it was quite clear that they would never leave their state. Finally in the end, we wanted very different things. Perhaps this is another thing to consider. Hopefully if you are doing long distance, you have already sat down and had a serious heart to heart.聽
聽聽聽 A bit of a Pandora's box.聽
聽聽聽 Ultimately, it is up to you. 陌 know some couples that are quite happy to spend time apart and prefer to have space and often, and some that have been together many years and will never break up. It is all up to what do you want and what will work for you.
聽聽 Best of luck.