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Might be helpful to you..
Good luck
Z
There are many mixed marriages in Jordan, good and bad.
I think your boyfriend has problems with his family as it聽 might that they wont except or he has no interest to marry you.
Marrying an outsider is often a concern in any culture, Eastern or Western.. but its never that drastic that it would mean the end of the world for someone. There are many examples of cross culture weddings in Middle East.
Unless the person in question has a serious problem at home, such as some tribal background in some remote place in Jordan or something where there are strict family rules, I dont see any problem with him proceeding.
This is my opinion, though since we do not know what situation he really is in, it would be not a good idea to judge.
Good luck
Z
You use the word "dating", have you actually met this man or are you just talking about an online relationship?
If you've met the man, does his family even know about you, or have either of you discussed the possibility of you meeting his family?
I really must concur with the others that this notion of some kind of cultural taboo against marrying outsiders is clearly not always the case. It might be more significant if you were of different religions, but I would presume he too is of the Islamic faith. I really think that if there is any kind of taboo at all it's in the mind of his family members.
At any rate, if he's already so unsure of the future, you shouldn't be investing too much of yourself into the relationship, it's quite likely that sooner or later it's going to vanish as quickly as a snowflake in the hot Jordanian sun. It's clear that he's already trying to distance himself from any kind of committment.
Cheers,
James
Expat-blog Experts Team
The major bone of contention,if any, for the families that object to a cross cultural marriages is religion. But since you already mentioned that you are from the same faith, it really does not make any sense.
When he speaks about being not acceptable in his 'culture', you might want to check if he is talking about the 'Jordanian' /'Arab' culture in general, or is he talking about some specific tribal culture.
Good luck
Z
James wrote:Hello Fhhhjjj,
At any rate, if he's already so unsure of the future, you shouldn't be investing too much of yourself into the relationship, it's quite likely that sooner or later it's going to vanish as quickly as a snowflake in the hot Jordanian sun. It's clear that he's already trying to distance himself from any kind of committment.
Cheers,
James
Expat-blog Experts Team
It's difficult to follow your real intentions since either way, you criticize! If men want to marry, you warn women from being used. If they do not want to marry, say it straight forward, you accuse them of taking distance from a commitment!!
Primadonna wrote:Without any judgmental comments I would say that your boyfriend is lying.
There are many mixed marriages in Jordan, good and bad.
I think your boyfriend has problems with his family as it聽 might that they wont except or he has no interest to marry you.
Tq for the reply. I didnt expect anyone to reply & appreciate that many contribute. I think if he were lying, he wouldn't bring the issue in the first place. We were friends first before we started liking each other. We are very compatible in many ways & he brought about this issue when we started being very comfortable as pairs. I've never thought about marriage until he did.

since she posted on Forum and most of us replied her
Let's hope the Best for her聽 
Waiting in eagerness and expecting her to discuss her decision woyld put extreme pressure on her and frankly, her personal eventual decision should be none of our business. I hope we all agree on this to let her have her privacy and wish her good luck.聽 : )
Z

Xeeschan wrote:Perhaps we should just be happy with giving our opinions and let her decide her personal business on her own?
Waiting in eagerness and expecting her to discuss her decision woyld put extreme pressure on her and frankly, her personal eventual decision should be none of our business. I hope we all agree on this to let her have her privacy and wish her good luck.聽 : )
Z
Your right but I was not asking to discus her choice but just out of compassion. And to be frankly topics about relationships doesn't belong here.
reply,then what does she really want ? isn't this forum to help one another if they have a Question regarding anything ?
Kate29 wrote:First of all,she posted her thought here on this very Forum..and then she said that she do not expect anyone to
reply,then what does she really want ? isn't this forum to help one another if they have a Question regarding anything ?
yes it is

Hope all's great in Amman. : )
Z
Primadonna wrote:Your right but I was not asking to discus her choice but just out of compassion. And to be frankly topics about relationships doesn't belong here.
Z
Kate29 wrote:First of all,she posted her thought here on this very Forum..and then she said that she do not expect anyone to
reply,then what does she really want ? isn't this forum to help one another if they have a Question regarding anything ?
Kate29 wrote:Bas Yalla,whatever ! Wish her luck Only
Thank u so much for the opinions & the wishes. I wrote this post when I was confused and sad (still confused). I also think I wasnt beeing very clear about what answers that I was looking for. People told me, there are many Jordanians married to foreigners. But to me...they are the exceptions from the norm.. Just bcs the exception exists doesnt mean it's acceptable...I guess I'm looking to learn the perspectives from men/women(especially Jordanian) who are not part of these exceptions. Those who are brought up in the 'common' Jordanian family or know people of such. I mean..what will happen? To what extent?
His fear is basically directed to his family. He's sure that he will be ousted by his family & he obviously loves them very much.
& we are still together as of today when this is written.
JO/EU wrote:James wrote:Hello Fhhhjjj,
At any rate, if he's already so unsure of the future, you shouldn't be investing too much of yourself into the relationship, it's quite likely that sooner or later it's going to vanish as quickly as a snowflake in the hot Jordanian sun. It's clear that he's already trying to distance himself from any kind of committment.
Cheers,
James
Expat-blog Experts Team
It's difficult to follow your real intentions since either way, you criticize! If men want to marry, you warn women from being used. If they do not want to marry, say it straight forward, you accuse them of taking distance from a commitment!!
I happen to agree with you both 
Bratty1919 wrote:I happen to agree with you both
JO/EU wrote:James wrote:Hello Fhhhjjj,
At any rate, if he's already so unsure of the future, you shouldn't be investing too much of yourself into the relationship, it's quite likely that sooner or later it's going to vanish as quickly as a snowflake in the hot Jordanian sun. It's clear that he's already trying to distance himself from any kind of committment.
Cheers,
James
Expat-blog Experts Team
It's difficult to follow your real intentions since either way, you criticize! If men want to marry, you warn women from being used. If they do not want to marry, say it straight forward, you accuse them of taking distance from a commitment!!
Perhaps you can enlighten us with your own thoughts on this issue, rather than criticize someone for doing just that. If you disagree with him, then post your reasons. His real intentions? I don't think anyone here has any sinister intentions. As there is absolutely nothing to gain from it. Well apart from putting doubts in people's mind so they don't get married - deriving sick pleasure from it. So he sets out to break-up relationships to give him a good feeling? I don't think so.
XB23 wrote:JO/EU wrote:James wrote:Hello Fhhhjjj,
At any rate, if he's already so unsure of the future, you shouldn't be investing too much of yourself into the relationship, it's quite likely that sooner or later it's going to vanish as quickly as a snowflake in the hot Jordanian sun. It's clear that he's already trying to distance himself from any kind of committment.
Cheers,
James
Expat-blog Experts Team
It's difficult to follow your real intentions since either way, you criticize! If men want to marry, you warn women from being used. If they do not want to marry, say it straight forward, you accuse them of taking distance from a commitment!!
Perhaps you can enlighten us with your own thoughts on this issue, rather than criticize someone for doing just that. If you disagree with him, then post your reasons. His real intentions? I don't think anyone here has any sinister intentions. As there is absolutely nothing to gain from it. Well apart from putting doubts in people's mind so they don't get married - deriving sick pleasure from it. So he sets out to break-up relationships to give him a good feeling? I don't think so.
You obviously have not followed former posts on former subjects, making your post not fit! Besides, my answer is understandable to the ones addressed to, talking about logic not defending one another...
have i a right in this overview?
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