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Halo guys,

I鈥檓 32M from Germany, my fianc茅e is 28F from Indonesia. We鈥檙e planning to get married in Indonesia and her family are conservative muslims living in TangSel, while my fiancee herself is very liberal and doesn't live with her parents anymore so she is not under their constant surveillance. I grew up Protestant. Her parents know about our relationship and are generally supportive and it was established early that when it comes to marriage it would be a Muslim ceremony.

She鈥檚 Muslim (as per her KTP at least, but doesn't actually practice it), and I鈥檓 totally fine with converting so we can do things properly, respect her family and make them happy. No issue there.

BUT her family is also saying I need to get circumcised before marriage鈥� and that鈥檚 where I鈥檓 stuck. I understand the cultural significance and everybody is free to do what they think is right, but I have my own thoughts about that and decided for me that I don't want to do it as an adult.

It鈥檚 a big deal for me, and I just don鈥檛 feel comfortable with it at all. My fianc茅e herself is fine with me NOT doing it, but her family is pretty serious about it.

So I鈥檓 trying to figure out what鈥檚 actually real vs just cultural pressure:

Is circumcision actually required for adult converts in Indonesia?

Or is it more like 鈥渙ld-school family expectation鈥� thing?

Would the KUA or whoever registers the marriage even care / check this stuff?

Do foreign guys usually get away without it, or is this a hard requirement in practice?

She says the main issue is getting her father's blessing. In the absolute worst case, what can be done about that?

I鈥檓 just trying to understand if this is a real rule or just family pressure before things get more complicated.

Any input from Indonesians or people who鈥檝e been through similar stuff would be really appreciated.

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